porn on DH computer

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porn on DH computer
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Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:21pm

ok I got enought problems, now I just went to shut off DH's computer and thought I'd look for some pic's of us from a walk we took. Only to find about 30mg's of naked women pictures and video.
I am not thrilled with it... I know he'd say " I like naked women,, its just pictures!"
Do I say anything?? or just ingore it and take it as , he's just a man.
The picture are like naked calendar girl pictures. Nothing discussing.

oiy.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 8:49am

To paraphrase Thomas Jefferson, I hold these truths to be self evident:

1) Men masturbate.

2) Men like to look at naked female bodies, whether live in person, movies, or still photos.

3) Men who have access to computers will use them to facilitate 1) and 2), above.

Unless you have reason to believe that 1), 2), or 3) above are interfering with your sex life or that the naked bodies in 2) are underage, I suggest that you ignore it. You can no more stop a man from doing these things than you can stop a dog from licking his you-know-what. :)

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Registered: 11-20-2005
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 10:28am
Although I think what Jackson said is true, as a woman I think you have the right to bring this up with your husband. It does not have to be a big fight, just calmly tell him what you told us and how it makes you feel. Maybe you could come to some sort of compromise. Telling him not to won't do any good, as he can do it without your knowing. The best you can hope for is that he understands where you are coming from and chooses to go along with your wishes.

 

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Registered: 03-02-2005
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:22pm

I like Jacksons way of putting things .. ROFL.
yea...... guess men do that. I don't want a fight. I don't like it... makes
me feel old and ugly. Lets face ,,I'm not 20. :-) wish I was.
But I guess he'd feel the same way if I had a bunch of naked young bucks on MY
computer. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 12:38pm
I agree with Jackson and T.

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 1:38pm

As much as I would never make this be an answer to a problem....


"Whats good for the goose is good for the gander"


Get ya some bucks girlfriend!

Jamie Lynn


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Registered: 11-13-2004
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 8:54am

My girlfriends tell me I am wierd about this but it just doesn't bother me. The way I figure it, it's not like it's a geographical thing and if Miss July moves in next store I'm out of a husband. I think it is a different thing than the love my DH shares with me. A more physical thing that is all about self love. I've also looked at it with him and he did love it too. Once he found out he didn't have to hide it I noticed he is not so interested in it.

Jackson, you killed me with that description. I almost spit coffee on my monitor.

 Michele winter
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Registered: 07-13-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 12:40pm

And just to emphasize one of Jackson's points....


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Registered: 01-30-2006
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 3:40pm
AND WHEN IT EFFECTS YOUR SEX LIFE THEN WHAT?????
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Registered: 08-18-2005
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 4:15pm

I only read through a few of the replies to your post... My DH looks at porn everyday on his home PC. It used to bug me, but then I got used to it, or whatever. It helps me "deal with it" easier, if I look at it with him! We have a site we go to everyday, to vote on the best ass of the day! Sounds dumb, but then we end up looking at a few other things while we're out there...

He asked me the other day if it bothered me that he did this (looked at porn on the pc) and I told him it used to) and he said that if it bothered me, he would stop. Now, if this is something that really does bug you, then your husband should be willing to stop doing it.

If you haven't looked at it with him, maybe you should take a peek! I'm not talking about the hardcore nasty stuff -- but it doesn't sound like that's what you found in the first place... If he sees you're interested in looking at those things with him, he may see you in a different light, too!!! Could spice things up!!

-S

Shannon
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Registered: 07-13-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 11:04am

Well, that's a different story.....if it is some sort of addiction, you should talk to him about it.


But, ask him to do a little experiment for you - ask him to not look at porn all day, then have sex with you, and see what happens...