Q for men on board...

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Q for men on board...
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:12pm

I need answers about libido guys!


Hubby just isn't interested but yet can play all day so to say. He will be all hands all day and rubbing up on all places all day, then when I finally get worked up enough to initiate and start he either "has to get ready for work" or is catching Zzzzz's. Last week on our PC cookies there was a site visited for a male enhancement medicine. He has NO trouble getting erect or staying erect. It takes awhile to actually ejaculate, but it DOES happen.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:14pm

I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I always want it.

Why speculate as to why? Just ask him!

 

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:19pm
I'd say # 4-except he's playing all day when he's around. As for physical attraction I think you are attractive (looking at your pic) so I don't think it's that. I think something is wrong-but I'm not sure what that might be. Certainly the porn is a problem if for no other reason than you find it a problem.
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Registered: 01-11-2006
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:25pm

(blushin')


Been awhile since I heard that....Thank you!


I just think its should be a marriage vow ya know....daily ritual to make wild passion in the bedroom in sickness and in health, lmao!

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:28pm
All I know is that a marriage with lots of sex is WAY BETTER than a marriage with little or no sex. And this cums from personal experience.
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Registered: 01-11-2006
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:33pm

(hot and bothered)


Ok I think...(uh uh uh)...I better go get kids from school and get a lil fresh air around here, lol


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Registered: 10-13-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:35pm

I'm just guessing at this stuff so take it for what it's worth.

I wouldn't worry about the male enhancement medicine (those are just to increase size supposedly) every guy thinks they are too small. I'm sure somewhere there's a guy with a 12" penis saying he wishes he was bigger. As you said he doesn't seem to have any problem functioning. As far as attraction, again I wouldn't worry you seem like a beautiful, sexy, loving wife (what more could a guy want?).

I honestly would say that the combination of working twelve hours a day and the pressure and immense responsibility of being a husband, a father of five, provider etc. may just be taking all his energy right now.

I know myself when I feel those pressures building I tend to retreat more and more into myself as opposed to talking to my wife about it and letting her know what's going on in my head.

Is he the type to hold it all in or does he open up to you?

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:41pm

He is pretty open with me, lately we have been having serious step child issues (his daughter). MAybe I'm crabbin' enough about her, the last thing you think of is sex ya know?


You guys are awful sweet with your compliments around here. Again, Thank You! I try my best with a massage therapy and hollistic medicine practice, kickboxing peer trainer

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Registered: 03-09-2005
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:23pm
The only person who can say what may be wrong is him. We can only speculate. My guess however would be that he's possibly worn out from the shift he works. Especially if it's physical labor. But the only way to find out is to ask him. I agree with the others regarding physical attraction. Looking at your picture, I can't see how he wouldn't be attracted to you. A blind man would be attracted to you. Ray Charles could see it and Stevie wouldn't have to Wonder.
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Registered: 01-19-2006
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:33am

"I know myself when I feel those pressures building I tend to retreat more and more into myself as opposed to talking to my wife about it and letting her know what's going on in my head."

Ok nova84, I checked your profile, there's no information, but I'm PRETTY sure you're not my husband! LOL

When this happens, are you aware of it at the time or does your wife have to call you on it and bring herself back into your plane of focus?

Does this annoy you, and you retreat even further inside, or manage to articulate to her some of what is going on so she doesn't feel like 1 -the invisible woman 2 - it might be her or something she is doing.

Is part of the reason you do it because you don't want to bring your work issues home, home is sacred and where your heart is and you want to keep those things out of it?

How can someone make someone else realise that by doing this they are actually bringing those issues home? Apart from telling that person over and over and over and over and over.... well you see where I'm going with this.

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Registered: 11-20-2005
Wed, 02-01-2006 - 7:16am
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Hey, we covered this in Marriage Enrichment last night! It's coming in useful already!!
You say you retreat in, some people are extroverts which rely on external forces to get their energy and some people ar introverts which rely on internal forces to get their energy and need quiet time to process things before they speak about them. Knowing that about yourself and your spouse help you to understand where you are both coming from. You all should track down a copy of the KEIRSEY TEMPERMENT SORTER and do it with your mate. It makes you stop and think of your differences and your similarities. Even if you've taken that kind of thing before, it helps to do it again, as people change. Give it a shot and let me know what you think!

 

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