Reciprocity in sexual relationships

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2012
Reciprocity in sexual relationships
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Sun, 05-20-2012 - 4:28pm

Is there a written (or unwritten) rule in sexual relationships that both partners must find the activities they engage in to be equally interesting, exciting, erotic in order to engage in it? Is it possible for one partner to not find something that their partner is interested in as interesting, exciting, erotic but still be willing to engage in it for their partner's sake- in order to please their partner and make them happy? I'm not talking about things that one partner might have some kind of trauma about or is rather extreme but just something that merely doesn't interest them as much as their partner. Or do both partners have to have the same degree of interest and enthusiasm in a particular activity in order for it to even be a possibility?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2012
Re: Reciprocity in sexual relationships
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 12:19pm
I agree, if you have talked and she says no, then drop it. She may change her mind, but doubtful. She may not want to poke her husband that way. Just enjoy the other penetrations she will do.