Respect my space in bed please!!!

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Respect my space in bed please!!!
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:52pm

OK.


We've talked a lot about do you mind being woken up for sex. And I don't mind - if Sean actually wakes me up and we have sex.


What is not ok - is, if from the minute he gets into bed with me at 3am - he wakes me up every 15 minutes by kicking me, groping me, stealing my covers, crowding me, moving me, and leaning on my hair.


I have been exhausted for a week before I finally realized WHY! I am essentially getting up at 3am every morning!!!


Do you guys ever have trouble with your sleeping partner invading your space and waking you up repeatedly?



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Registered: 09-22-2004
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:07pm
I sure do! Brian tosses and turns all night long. In the process he ends up taking up at least 3/4 of the bed and just about all the covers and worst of all...my pillow.
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 8:12pm

My love used to steal the covers when we first got married and having considered the hotel answer ie; 2 X single quilt's / bed, but ended up with a goose feather filled King size douvet/quilt on a double bed.

Although we do spoon after sex until my arm under her goes numb generally we sleep back to back with me squeezed into 1/3 of the bed on my side to stop me snoring lol.

Have you tried the pillow's down the center of the bed, Iused to have to do that when DD or DS came to our bed when my love was on night's, as they would toss and turn all over the place.

We now have a king size bed and have learnt to sleep soundly together
cheers Jacobiteone

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 10:06pm
He also wants to pull me to him (which really hurts my hips which are still not back into place after having Abi) and he wants to sleep with his arm under my neck which again throws my back down to hips out of alignment and then he gets mad when I push him off me.... but I have told him 100 times that is a painful position!


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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 8:10am

My DW and I have a king sized bed and we very seldom phyically interfere with the other. However this time of year I snore and I don't mean a little. I rattle the windows and scare dogs the next block over. I snore on by back, I snore on my side, I snore on my stomach. Sometimes I even snore so bad that I wake myself. So one of us usually ends up sleeping on the couch. If I think I will snore before I go to bed, I will usually sleep there. If I don't and then do, my DW will go there, even though I have told her to wake me and I would go.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 8:51am

We don't have "space" in bed! We sleep in a Queen size bed and didn't matter if it was a double king or not. we would be on top each other all night long anyways. I guess that comes from almost 20yrs sleeping in a double bed with no room. I Love to wake up and have DH's arms around me or his legs over mine. I also sleep spooning his back love doing that. I love feeling him agaist me. We have for 25yrs now slept in each other arms and I can't think of a better way to sleep! LOL!


Now Jennie I do get those "wondering" hands during the night and DH doesn't even know he is doing it! LOL! sometimes I push his hands away and sometimes I reach over and take matters into my hands and his suprised!! LOL! Also the 'hair thing' I started along time ago brading it or put in a ponytail so it will not be in the way.


I don't get couples that don't sleep together. My BIL and his wife don't sleep together and they are in their mid 40s and been married only 12yrs. But when they did sleep together in a 'king' bed he had his side and his covers and she had hers.....to me this mad!


I guess we each have our ways and we have to find the right one for us.

memeblue

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 10:51am
my dh snores...like a bull moose LOL LITERALLY....Most of the time it doesn't bother me but if I can't sleep and he's doing it it will drive me absolutely nutty!!!!!
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Registered: 04-08-2005
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 2:32pm
No real problems here. DW usually comes upstairs after I'masleep and generally wakes me up. However, I have to "cum" to see this as an opportunity.
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Registered: 07-18-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 3:54pm

My DH and I started sleeping together in August last year, and were married in October, so after a number of years on my own I was getting used to sharing my bed again. I didn't complain because I loved it, especially the snuggling up and the waking up with our bodies pressed against each other. However, here's the big but... snoring. Bedclothes being stolen are nothing when compared to this foghorn going off at intervals throughout the night. It is worth having him wake me up for sex because he goes back to sleep again and doesn't snore for a while.

Love Josie

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Registered: 04-08-2005
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 4:02pm
My DW and I are both snorers, but we too have found that having sex when awakened by snoring makes the snoring more than tolerable.
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Registered: 08-10-2004
Tue, 04-19-2005 - 4:29pm
When i first got married sharing EVERYTHING was hard. The bed was ok most of the time other than the occasional snoring, odd odors, etc. Sharing the bathroom was the worst! We had a 1 bedroom studio.. I was so happy when we got a house with seperate bathrooms.

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