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Revving Up a Low Libido: Gentlemen, Start Your Engines
Is your sex drive as strong as the next guy’s?
By Sean Elder
WebMD Feature

Conventional wisdom tends to be more convention than wisdom, and the idea that women have a low libido while men’s sex drive is stuck in high gear is a perfect example. Truth be told, a lot of guys don’t find their engines running as hot as they might like.

“It’s an interesting hidden problem,” says Louanne Cole Weston, PhD. Weston is a marriage and family therapist and board-certified sex therapist in Fair Oaks, California. “Men who have a reduced sex drive don’t want to talk about it, and the women with them don’t want to talk about it either. The women are afraid if they say much about it, people will think either the man’s really gay, or she’s a ‘bad lay’ or too unattractive to stir his passions. And the man has the myth that you’re supposed to want it all the time, anywhere.”

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In her role as a sex therapist, and as former author of the WebMD Sex Matters board, Weston has found that low libido in men is a much more common complaint than our popular culture would seem to indicate. She says, “When people wrote in about the discrepancy of frequency and desire, about 40% of the time it was men wanting less.”

Exactly what is a low libido?

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