a Sexual question...

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Registered: 03-19-2003
a Sexual question...
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Mon, 11-02-2009 - 8:49pm

Has there ever been something or several things in particular that changed your life and its path significantly sexually?


Has this happened more than once, if it happened at all?

memeblue

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Mon, 11-02-2009 - 10:52pm
My sexual life and regular life have changed significantly over the years. I think that the two are interconnected, so whatever is going on with me emotionally, mentally, physically, etc., also changes my sexual life.

The first time was during my first marriage, when we eventually stopped having sex altogether. Either he was never home (because he was too busy running around with his drinking/drug buddies or in prison) or because I was so angry at him or afraid of him that I simply could not have sex with him. In a sense, it was a relief not to have sex with him, because our sex life was never that good to begin with, so that was another stressor that I didn't need to have to deal with.



When I met Master my sex life change dramatically and for the better, because I was finally through with vanilla sex and could have the kinky sex that I needed and craved. O/our sex life has changed quite a bit since then because of my illnesses. Master has always known me when I was chronically ill, but that fact didn't really get in the way until last spring when I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and my libido took a nose dive and disappeared. It's been a struggle getting it but Master has never given up on me. Living with five chronic illnesses day in and out isn't easy, but W/we've learned to deal with it. There have also been some states of depression that I've gone through when I haven't felt sexually connected to Him. In short, my mental, emotional and physical well-being is connected to my sexual well-being.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:00pm

Hi Meme,


There is a major illness that changed my life in very many ways as well as my sex life.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 12-10-2009 - 9:12pm
I am sorry for your situation, and for your wife's attitude.

{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}





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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 7:37am

Steve,


WOW, Im glad you laid it out there for us. Im soo Sorry that your wife is like that to you. I don't get why she is other than maybe

memeblue

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 12-11-2009 - 8:15am

I am sorry to hear about all



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Registered: 08-11-2006
Mon, 12-14-2009 - 10:11pm

I have to echo meme here, either she was molested or had a very strict upbringing.


I know what you mean about being bitter.

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Registered: 02-25-2008
Tue, 12-15-2009 - 12:43am

I am sorry that she feels this way. It sound to me like sex was shunned when she was a child. That she was made to feel like it was dirty and bad. :(


I wish that she would truly

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