soon to be married...need advise...

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Registered: 12-28-2011
soon to be married...need advise...
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Wed, 12-28-2011 - 1:41pm

hello everyone,

I m 28, soon to be married.virgin, started mastrubating since few days, when would be hubby insisted so that i can know myself well. He too never had sex before.

out of many of my curiosities, fears and excietment few ones are here-

1) really worried of the pain that happns for thefirst time.

2) i dont get any orgasm when i finger myself.is it normal?

waiting for some tips from my seniors here:)

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 1:57pm

Hi and welcome. Congratulations on the upcoming wedding. When is it?

I would suggest the first thing you do is check out this website: http://www.the-clitoris.com/. It is filled with lots of great information. If soon-to-be husband hasn't has sex either, then I would also suggest that he read it.

For some people it hurts and for others it doesn't. Everyone is different. Whatever you do, try to relax and not tense yourself. As for masturbating, well, some women also cannot orgasm that way either. Do you stimualte your clitoris at all? Most women do not get off without it. Do you have any vibrators? If not, how about investing in one. Nothing to fancy, just something to assist you.



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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2011
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 2:27pm
thanks,its in April.
seems like a great link.
well i do, n feel a dry one. But when i try to finger inside, i dint get any O.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2001
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 10:49pm

Congratulations!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2011
Wed, 01-04-2012 - 12:03pm

sorry tracy for late reply..was out of town for some shopping:smileyvery-happy:

Thanks...for the wishes and lovely suggestions :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 01-06-2012 - 8:55am

Hi surfer-angel and welcome to the board!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2011
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 2:37pm
thanks Tasha :)
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Registered: 12-28-2011
Mon, 01-16-2012 - 2:38pm
i already love your forums ..!:D
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 8:20am

Good!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-10-2006
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 8:00pm

Don't be worried, just spend a lot of time on foreplay, let yourself be excited about getting to know him in a new way, and relax. It might hurt but it will get better.

It's good to get to know yourself but personally, I've almost never orgasmed from hands (mine or his) and almost never masturbate ... oral sometimes works, intercourse almost always.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-1998
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 11:31am
As Tasha said...... use Lube.

It makes everything easier. Use during masturbation as well. Rub some on yourself and on him.

Relax. Take your time. A glass of wine, candle light, a warm room soft music...

Vibrators are wonderful. It makes it easy to give DW orgasms. I love power tools;)

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