spontaneous sex - but need to shower?

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spontaneous sex - but need to shower?
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Fri, 04-24-2009 - 1:48pm

I want more spontaneous sex but I like to shower thoroughly beforehand. So dh showers, I shower, then afterwards, I shower again, and he showers. Kind of dull, isn't it?


Can I just use a bath wipe (playtex or summers eve wipe) that's flushable? Would it clean the naughty bits enough to have a go?


If your cutie comes in the door and wants to go at it, do you say, hang on, I'll shower and meet you on the bed? Surely there must be a way to fasttrack it.

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Fri, 04-24-2009 - 2:29pm

I have never "showered" before or after sex. There are times we do shower after due it being "AM Sex" and we are getting ready for the day. But Heck I just jump his bone no matter what!


There is nothing wrong with "cleaning" up afterwards with bath wipe....or just a warm wash cloth too.


I have a friend that "has to" shower afterwards all the time....unless its night time or they aren't going anywhere. if she is heading out the door anytime after sex she has to shower even if she had a shower before.


some people think they can "smell sex" on themselfs and have to clean up. I have never thought about it.


Now I will say we have showered 'before' sex a few times due to work out in the yard or working out at the gym...but 99% of the time nope!

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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 3:42am

It's hardly spontaneous if you're cleaning up beforehand!

I would be careful with those feminine wipes. The chemicals and perfumes in them can cause a reaction in some women, since the tissue is delicate down there, and they can also change your pH levels and make you more prone to infection.

Why the big deal on being super clean before sex? Unless you have an infection down there, you shouldn't have any funky smells.

 


 


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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 8:06am

I'm a 2 shower a day gal and

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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 6:25pm

It's not the vagina and its smells I'm worried about. I hate not being ultra clean due to using the washroom sometime beforehand. After doing number one or especially number two, there is no way I can consider it clean enough for me.


Now do you see? I wish I could just say, Hey let's go for it but I freak out over fecal smells and germs.

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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 7:15pm

Then what you need to do is use a wet wipe after doing #2, that will help with the 'feeling clean'.


If your just worried about that area 'smell' then why not just wipe off with a warm wash cloth before sex, then take a shower afterwards. there is no need to shower before and after each time. that will help you jump into sex faster than showering before.


are you doing oral each time you have sex?? is what why your worried about "smells" down there??

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Tue, 04-28-2009 - 8:19pm

Hello meme and all,


I love the way my DW smells down there.

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 12:34am

You know, I DO know what you mean. I know I smell just fine and I myself do not mind how men or women smell. Still, I can't enjoy oral if I haven't recently showered... so, like just HOW clean do you need to be? The flushable wipes have pros and cons: pros are yes, they are fast, they do the job. CONS: if you want oral, your lover will taste soap, not you, they can seriously clog your toilet despite being flushable (NEVER use w/ a septic system) and they might cause UTIs. If it's washing up your bum, they're great. Assuming you've showered w/in a few hours before sex, believe me you're clean. You can also keep a squirt bottle with water and a SMALL amount of witch hazel, that will do the job too.

If you still can't relax or enjoy it w/o showering, why not do it together as part of foreplay? If you like to shower after, again... join each other and make it part of your intimacy.

Not everyone is the same, and if you're like it all clean, then be creative!

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Thu, 04-30-2009 - 12:10pm

This is a great idea. It would be too expensive and take up too much space to put in a bidet but the handheld spray attached to the toilet would do the job. It looks like you have to order it online because home depot probably doesn't carry it. It's only $44 too. Very reasonable.


Thanks. So far, I'll use the flushable wipes until the toilet starts to back up.


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Fri, 05-01-2009 - 1:30pm
I always have to clean up "before".
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Sun, 05-03-2009 - 10:42pm

I have went out and met a female friend of mines for lunch one day.We were riding in the same car which was my car,anyway she was wearing a skirt and she opened up her legs to show me what kind of panties she was wearing and when she did that.I smelled an odor down there like the sex scent type odor and I asked her"You just had sex before we met"She said yes,Why you must can smelled it when I opened my legs to show you what kind of pantes I have on.I said yes and told her how much I loved smelling the sex scent and how much it turns me on.After there that,she told me all about it and even placed her hand down there and showed me her wetness from her morning of fun.


This is just to let you know,If I do comeup on a woman and was able to smell something like that on her.It be offensive to me and I

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