a thought. about sex....

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a thought. about sex....
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 12:02pm

I posted this on my other board but wanted to see what others here thought....


As most of you know, my DH is working very long hours and has for almost a year now. Our sex life is up and down due to him working so long and then theres my accident that doesn't help as well.


We use to have sex at least 2 times during the work week and then the weekends again 2-3 more times...But now its mostly just weekend sex. I can say since Jan we haven't had sex during the week but maybe 2 times.


So is a sex life still good when you only do it on the weekends?


Does having sex 2 or 3 times on the weekend but none during week as "good" as having sex 2-3 times ALL week long??


what Im asking is...having sex only on the weekends vs all week long still good sex? LOL!


I guess my mind is just moving alot these days! LOL!

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Registered: 03-23-2010
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 4:19pm
Any sex can be good sex no matter how frequently you get it.
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 5:08pm
I take quality over quantity. You can have sex every day of the week and it can still be lousy, whereas you can have sex only once a week or once a month and it be wonderful. Right now I can't remember the last time Master and I had sex, because of His schedule and my illnesses. So W/we always try to make it as good as possible when W/we do manage to have sex.
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Tue, 03-23-2010 - 11:46pm

So sorry to hear about your situation, my wife was not in the best of health second half of last year so the sex was great when we had it, but less frequently than usual. So anyway I think "great sex" is one main thing, does it enhance the intimacy/connection/bonds between lovers. And yes sex has other purposes too like pleasure, run, tension release, babies etc. But if your weekend sex brings you closer together and connected on a deep level, then you're having awesome fulfilling sex

I hope things get bettter soon for you and your husband

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Wed, 03-24-2010 - 7:40am
I think it all depends on how you make it. Personally, sex on the weekends would be better than none at all.



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Thu, 03-25-2010 - 9:00am

I'm in agreement with BL (big shock!) that weekend sex is better than no sex at all.











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Sat, 03-27-2010 - 10:32am

I have been on these board for almost 10yrs now, and I know there are others out there that are having less sex than me and some having more sex than me.


What ya dont see its not really about the 'sex', its about the closeness that is missing. That closeness is hard to get caught up on the weekends, when you go without every week.


My DH leaves for work about 6-6:15am and then

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Mon, 03-29-2010 - 5:37pm
Mostly our sex has always been on weekends- feel too tired during the week. Trying to be more "regular."

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Registered: 09-14-2007
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:11am

Personally, I prefer quality over quantity.

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Registered: 08-19-2003
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 9:20am

I definitly know what you are talking about.


My DH works 2nd shift (3:30pm-12am) so all evening it's me and the kids and I'm in the bed fast asleep by the time he makes it home. He usually takes about 2 hours after getting home to unwind and relax in the quiet before coming to bed. I get up in the a.m. get the kids off to school, clean house, run errands and whatever else is needed done, he gets up at 1pm, gets ready for work, we talk for a few then he's off to work. It sucks


When we have sex during the week it's usually him poking a proding til I wake up and it's over before I'm fully awake so it drives me nuts. Weekends are nice but it's also one of those Make The Most Of It Cause You Only Have 2 Days kind of things.


What I've started doing is setting the alarm a little earlier in the morning so when it goes off I'll hit the snooze, roll over and wrap my body around him and just lay there snuggled until the alarm goes off again. It makes me feel a little better.


We also talk and text throughout the evening even if it's just to say I love you or how about some love tonight. It helps


I hope it gets better for you, it takes some adjusting but it'll work out

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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 9:35am

thanks! your right its alot of "make the most of the 2 days we have together" rush rush rush!


DH does try to call me during the day a few times but some days I don't hear at all from him due to things at work. I wish we could 'text' But He works in hospital so no cell are allowed! LOL!

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