Threesome as a gift for my husband

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2013
Threesome as a gift for my husband
17
Thu, 09-05-2013 - 5:18pm

I am considering suggesting a threesome to my husband -- us and another woman.  For context, I would describe our sex life as average.  He is more sexual than I am and I know he wishes that I were more adventurous.  This is not to say that I don't have fantasies or desire, but I have never been comfortable with talking about them with him.  I am pretty sure he would be excited by the idea (I don't know very many men who wouldn't), and I have done some research on how to pick the other woman (someone we know vs. escort).  I guess I just thought I would put the idea out here on the board to see if anyone has had experience with this and would like to offer some advice -- e.g. how you picked the third person, if you found it to be enjoyable, if you want to warn against it. 

Any thoughts/advice is welcome.

Thanks.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2014
Sun, 02-16-2014 - 3:45pm

I love watching too! lol!! ot's a complete turn on!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2014
Fri, 02-14-2014 - 12:38pm
In one threesome, I enjoy being the third party. The wife enjoys being spanked as the husband watches, then I watch them have intercourse
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-17-2014
Fri, 01-17-2014 - 5:31pm

As previous members have stated, make sure this is something that you both want, have totally thought about it thoroughly. My Hubby and I have been married many years, and a few years back we started discussing have a threesome, and swinging. For us, it is an amazing and fulfilling experience.  It's not for everyone. You can't be ruled by jealousies and insecurities. I, for one, TRULY enjoy watching my husband with another woman and or women, so I have no issues at all with jealousy. Our swinging comes in a variety of ways. Sometimes we swing together with other partners in the same room, sometimes we swing apart from each other- but in the same home. For instance, if we are at a swing party, I may wonder off and enjoy the company of another, and likewise for hubby. And sometimes, it's just in the quiet of our own little home, with a few nice friends. Don't give this as a gift to your hubby- it has to be a gift for both of you. Make sure you have it well planned so things aren't awkward. It's not a decision to be made lightly. You may want to start out with something softer, maybe purchase him a full body massage, and watch, and see how that goes. If that bothers you, then swinging or a 3-some isn't for you. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2014
Wed, 01-08-2014 - 1:42pm
Be careful what you ask for. The idea is always exciting but the emotions you deal with after are never expected. If you decide to go through with it get an escort but don't let her be someone your husband will think about later.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2013
Tue, 12-17-2013 - 3:37am
If you are gifting him threesome driven by a guilt that you are not adventurous and match up to him, then this is not a great idea. You or for that matter any body should think about a gift like this, when one is confident and sure of themselves and they themselves will enjoy the experience.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-27-2013
Wed, 11-13-2013 - 3:43pm

Not yet...but I haven't given up on the idea!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-06-2013
Fri, 10-18-2013 - 6:26pm

I've been wondering about this too, if it ever happened. A simple yes or no works :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2013
Mon, 10-14-2013 - 11:13pm

Just Curious - Did you ever set up a 3-sum with your husband? How did it turn out for you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-04-2007
Wed, 09-25-2013 - 11:26am

Have you thought about taking him to a strip club and get a few lap dances for both of you?  That may open a can of worms but you would get some sense of how you feel while he is getting the attention of a female.

Avatar for annie66
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2011
Thu, 09-12-2013 - 8:47am

We also have a 'regular' third. A man I met more than 7 years ago. We've never even been inside a swing club but we have a rather unique arrangement.  My younger sister and her husband also are in an open marriage. And we share partners. None of us are bi.

Pages