Update: 3 Week Drought

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Update: 3 Week Drought
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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 12:20pm

Nothing new to report in the happiness department. He's still not putting out. (Don't I sound like a guy?) Tomorrow officially makes one month and I'm going through so many changes. Who knew that not having sex could affect you so much? I'm moody. I don't really want him around me. I don't really feel like him touching me anymore. I even feel a little depressed. I'm going through so many emotions. Last night I was telling him that we need to take family pictures but I don't want to be in any. He mentioned my self esteem issues but does he really think he's helping me? I'm starting to think that regardless of what he says, there are two things it could be: 1) it's me or 2) he has some sort of timetable in his head that he's trying to avoid sex. Jokingly last night, he said that he wants to become a born again virgin. IS HE SERIOUS!!!! It's been a month since we were last intimate and he knows that it's bothering me but he keeps playing. He keeps telling me to have will power. I truly don't think that it's his back anymore because the only time he seems to mention that his back is bothering him is when he knows that I want some. He sat outside in front of Wal-Mart for 8 hours waiting on the new Xbox 360 but yet he complains that his back hurts. Something just isn't right with that. I keep thinking back to when he made a comment a few weeks back that he could go 8 weeks without touching me. That's why I say I think it might be some stupid timetable he made up in his head. He's still been grabbing at my breasts and my butt but backs away and tells me no when I touch him. I'M SOOOOOO FRUSTRATED!!! My husband is not a bad person. He uses humor to try to get through difficult times but right now, all I need is PENETRATION!!! Sorry to be so graphic but that's just the point I'm at right now. I even "pleased" myself the other day. Yeah, I had the "big O" but that's not all sex is to me. That's never been what it was about.

Tisha~Marine Wife and SAHM
Marine Wife~~Hardest Job in the Corps

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 1:08pm
This does sound like a personal game or goal setting situation for him. Why on earth would a married man play such silly (stupid) games with his wife. You need to confront him "head on" with this problem. Do you remeber that old film that had the man yelling out the window, "I am mad as hell and I won't take it any more!"" That's where you are right now!! Good luck a on regaining your lost treasure.
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Registered: 11-02-2005
Fri, 11-25-2005 - 4:54pm
It surely sounds like he's waiting for something. Sounds like he was setting it up long ago when he mentioned the eight weeks. I don't know what to tell you- wish I had a solution for you. Just be careful that in your frustration you don't say or do anything you will regret. Good luck.