V- Day for him?

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V- Day for him?
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 11:15pm
So I've read a few of the posts about what is expected from DH for Valentines Day...the repsonse to my post about a gift were very good. Thanks
Question is, do any of you gals expect to do something in return for the wining, dining, chic movie, flowers, etc. I know the goal is usually a nice evening in bed but has your guy asked or hinted at anything further as a spoiling benefit to him?
Now I don't mean anything REALLY further like a threesome or anything extreme but how about something like watching porn together if you don't normally do that or maybe sex outside in public if you don't do that or maybe a visit to a topless club. OK, some of these maybe extreme but what I'm getting at is can your guy expect some extended effort on your part for V-Day or is this just really a gal's holiday? Which is totally OK if it is...
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 6:53am
Well, honestly, I don't consider it a chick holiday, considering I have never liked Valentine's Day and I am a "chick". I alwyas thought it to be overrated, and I have never had anyone not even husband buy me anything for that particular, and Dad's don't count, not many people wanted to , "Be mine." On that day. for spoiling the guy, i have no suggestions??? my husband hates that day too, except this year, i decided to get into the spirit and see what happens, if anything, good luck!
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Registered: 11-20-2005
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 7:01am
Well, I didn't use to like that day either. But that was when I was getting romance and attention all the time. Now, I'm non exisitant most of the time and I can't think of a time where he took charge of a night out for us. So, now it's my excuse to demand it! We don't do it on the actual day normally but try to fit it in that week. This year I'm giving him satin sheets with a fun little nightie for me. when I told him I wanted the works on Valentine's this year, he said "okay, but the next week I want the works.", funny thing is, he actually meant romance!

 

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Registered: 03-08-2004
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 10:19am

I'm not a fan of V-day and I don't expect anything from Dh.

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Registered: 10-09-2004
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 11:22am

Quite honestly, V-Day is a day that provides women with the opportunity to bitch that they didn't receive anything and a day that slathers the guilt onto men to do so or they aren't considered loving.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 11:38am
DH does the flower & candy thing when we're together with no expectations of anything later but I usually get a new little something sexy just for him.

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Registered: 11-20-2005
In reply to: tampa_man
Mon, 01-23-2006 - 1:40pm
Wow, some people are taking this way too seriously! It doesn' t have to be tuxedos and champagne! I just bought DH his Valentines card and on the front are two beautiful children sharing a milkshake. In a bubble over the boys head is a caption that reads "Cheaper than two milkshakes and half the price". Over the little girls head it says "Hope you like backwash"! LMAO. Another time I got him one that said "Sometimes life is rainbows and butterflies" and on the inside it read "Other times it's a steaming pile of sh*t" then I wrote that although ours was the latter right now I was still glad to be going through it with him. He laughed his butt off at it. Then planted a huge kiss on me.

 

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Registered: 01-23-2006
In reply to: tampa_man
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:27am

Valentine's Day is not a huge deal around here. We do usually get each other a token of the holiday and a card.

More importantly it is an excuse for an evening in bed together! Even if it is a boring Thursday night with kids' carpools and homework we know we'll have something to look forward to when all the chaos has subsided!

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Registered: 07-13-2005
In reply to: tampa_man
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 11:56am
I just love V-Day. It's is sort of like New Year's Eve - a chance to dress up, do something different, without peopel thinking you are some kind of dork. I mean, leaving a trail of heart shaped candy up the stairs isn't "normal" for any old Tuesday....