We need help.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
We need help.
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:22am
Hello everyone. I used to post on here about a year ago as tootsie 419. Anyhow I am 9 months pregnant with our second child and we are having a very hard time with intercourse. I wasnt nearly as round with my first pregnancy and I was also seven years younger and alot more energetic. Its not uncomfortable for me in anyway so my doc said it was fine right up until delivery. Dh has no problems with it either except that we are running out of "ways" to do it. Obviously missionary is out as well as me on top. Spooning was never a preference of ours so we try to avoid that one as much as we can but lately its almost all we can do. Doggy is still good but only for a few minutes because my back really starts to bother me. I have about two weeks to go until my due date and even though its not a very long time I was thinking about the 4 to 8 weeks of no sex after baby is born too. This really sucks. we are a very sexually active couple and this is really taking a toll on both of us. Does anyone have any creative positions they know of to work around my baby belly? BTW I never thought Id say this but since intercourse is so hard to do lately all weve been doing is oral and Im actually getting bored with it because it has become soooo routine. I doubt Dh is though LOL.
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 8:57pm

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 7:12pm

How about you on top with him sitting in a chair? That way less of your weight is on him.


Or on a counter or the kitchen table?



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Registered: 03-22-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 9:42pm

I am 8mos pg and what works well for us this time around is doggy, but on the floor. When we were on the bed, it was awful. I would get tired and not have the firm support the floor offers and therefore, it wouldn't last long. But the floor gives me a pretty stable surface to stay at the right angle.

Hope this helps,

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 3:39pm

Spooning was all I could do there in month nine and I am with you - UGH I got sick of it FAST!! It's a year later and I still shy away from it!!!


Try this:


You on your back... scoot to the edge of the bed and let him stand up and you can do a version of missionary that way.


Being on your back is not ideal for pregnant women for blood flow so tell him to be fast! LOL


Jennie




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Registered: 02-25-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 3:32pm
Hey tootsie - congratulations on a nice-to-have problem! My DH pretty much lost interest once I really started to show so I'm a bit envious. First of all, remember that if your body can handle it you can have sex earlier than six weeks after the baby is born so it may not be so long to wait after all. ;-) Meanwhile, try experimenting a bit more with rear-entry positions, like standing or with you bent over something. Some streches to relieve backaches actually put you in a primo position for DH! If the traditional you on top is uncomfortable, try facing the other way. Also, some counters or tabletops will put you at the perfect height for him to enter, and you can lean back so the belly isn't in the way. Have fun!