wedding night debate :/ (tmi for some)

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wedding night debate :/ (tmi for some)
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Wed, 07-11-2012 - 6:46pm
First off let me say I'm not looking for negative feedback, and if you don't have anything nice to say please hit the back button. This is something that has been a conflict for us for months, but it is something that I find really important.

My DF and I are getting married in a few months, and I shared with him recently the one thing I really want on our wedding night. I really want for him to come inside me. This is where its tricky...1) I'm not on birth control because the hormones make me crazy, 2) he doesn't want to chance the possibility of pregnancy, and 3) neither of us can agree on what to do. As a side note, we use no protection now apart from the "pull out" method. It's not that I want to try to get pregnant, I just feel that by doing it this way it will finalize our marriage by doing something new and the way making love was supposed to be. I know he would do it if I'm adamant about it, but I don't want to make him uncomfortable with the decision.

Did any of you guys have this dilemma? What is the best way to resolve this issue? Am I just being emotional and reckless?
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Registered: 05-29-2012
Wed, 08-08-2012 - 11:59am
The pull out system of birth control is not a reliable method of birth control.

You should ask your doctor to help develope a plan to keep you from getting pregnant. Remember only one little sperm has the opportunity to fertilize the egg. Pre-come or "dog water" can and does contain sperm. The fluid comes from the sac that holds the fluid until ejaculation. It passes a port that releases the sperm into the stream. This port can leak and as I said it only takes one swimmer to find the egg.

The counting method works somewhat well. I have Catholic friends that use it and come to think of it they do have large families...

No method is 100% effective 100% of the time. I have friends that got pregnant while the wife was on the pills, using condoms and other various methods. The only one that works always is abstinence, and that ain't gonna happen, right?