What is the deal with anal sex?

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Registered: 04-11-2005
What is the deal with anal sex?
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Wed, 04-13-2005 - 1:55pm

Hey all. Lurker here, so I guess you could say I am new to the board, lol.

Anyway, I dont get it. I always thought anal sex was kind of a no-no. Do you do it often? Is it good? I just do not for the life of me understand.

When we first started together my guy (living together, soon to be married)suggested it. I just freaked and definitely said no. Actually, one time his penis kind of slipped to my anus and it was just such a shock, I suddenly felt I HAD to go to the bathroom. It kind of sucked. After that my guy changed his mind and said that he rather not cross that boundary with me.

Anyway is this common, the anal sex? Is it erotic? What is its appeal? Cause if it is any good I would definitely like to try it.

Thanks!

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 5:25pm
Nothing in sex is a no-no if both partners want to do it and enjoy doing it.
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Registered: 04-02-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 7:40pm

Personally, I love it. I masturbate anally, and have gotten to the point where we have anal much more often than vaginal intercourse. The orgasms are amazing and he loves it when I reach back and play with his big nuts.

He says he likes it because it feels much tighter and gets a really arousing view of me.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:30am

hello and welcome to SMS.


I for one don't like anal sex and don't think I will ever. But DH is fine with that! I hate to never! but as of right now...no way! LOL!

memeblue

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 10:44am
Well for me, we have tried..fingers,toys, etc... but nothing works it just wont go in.. But it is a turn on just him being around that area. He loves it.
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Registered: 09-02-2004
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 11:05am

Well Wickd - I suppose you could put anyting in that sentence - what's the deal with ____?

We do it maybe once every couple of months. My DW likes it, and she LOVES how much I like it. It DOES feel tighter, but different as well. It definitely took a couple of times to get it right, and to get it to where DW actually liked it for it's own merits versus liking it just because it turned me on.

I think it is one taboo thing that you can do easily, versus something like a threesome, or bondage, probably the other two most commonly talked about taboos.

There IS a right way and a wrong way for sure. You must use plenty of lube, and take it very slow. Start with a finger or a vibe to get used to it. There is no harm in trying, and I would advise trying more than once. The other key is to RELAX. And I don't know how else to describe it, but you know how sometimes you feel "cleaner" down there than others? A nice shower beforehand works too.

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Registered: 04-11-2005
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 12:57pm
This might be a silly question, but how do you masterbate anally?

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:43pm
We have often used anal play as we call it for foreplay type stuff and it's fun.. taboo and all.


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Registered: 05-04-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:44pm
My guess to that is if there is a toy of some sort involved it is used anally instead of vaginally.


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Registered: 05-04-2003
Thu, 04-14-2005 - 1:45pm

The deal with anal sex is that it's great. If you like it, if you can find a position that works, and if you have a partner that is willing and able and considerate.


Sometimes I get my DH hopped up for backdoor sex and then something about it's not right and we don't.. and he's OK with that.


Other times... it's a piece of cake.


Trial and error is how we found a good position (the spooning with me titled forward) and we have not deviated from that yet. we also "work" up to it through foreplay... I can't just.. let him jump right in.



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Fri, 04-15-2005 - 5:33pm

Well... thank you very much for your responses. I am not sure if I will try it... but now I am not so closed to the idea.

Thanks!