What do you think of scheduling sex?

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Registered: 04-06-2012
What do you think of scheduling sex?
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Thu, 04-18-2013 - 1:41pm

My husband was complaining that we aren't having sex as much as he would like, and with our schedules it can be a challenge to find a time for it.  I've heard about people scheduling time for sex, and mentioned it to him.  He did not like the idea at all, like it would take some of the fun out of it.  I feel the opposite;  I think it might get both of us in the mood.  The expectation, knowing when it will happen and leading up to it, could be fun.  Would this be a turn off or turn on for you?

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Registered: 08-11-2001
Wed, 08-14-2013 - 12:44pm

We always schedule are sex.  That makes it a high priority.  We both work and are very busy.  When each of us makes a comitment we know that Saturday evening is never available.  It is reserved for sex.  The schedule becomes a tangible reminder of our commitment to each other.  Plus I get to count the hours, 77 more hours until.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 08-06-2013 - 11:25am

Listen to Amante! He knows what he's talking about.

There is nothing wrong with having to set encounters up but please don't use the word schedule... YUCK... Call it date night and actually go on dates.



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Registered: 06-14-2002
Tue, 04-23-2013 - 12:21pm

I like the hot date idea, especially if you can incorporate someplace for sex that is out of the ordinary (but don't risk getting arrested).  My wife and I occasionaly do something like this.  We suggest clothing to wear (or not wear) and then go out for time without the children.  There are some places around here that we can go that are private where we can do anything from heavy petting to ...  It sets aside the time and even if we don't do anything while we are "out", we usually have some hot sex when we get home and behind our bedroom door.

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Registered: 01-03-2007
Thu, 04-18-2013 - 3:40pm

The word itself is not a turn on, try calling it a Hot Date. Tell him what you will wear, and what you're in the mood for, and it wll get him going.

Sometimes, the reality of life is that if you don't make time for it, it won't happen