Why husbands who clean...

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Why husbands who clean...
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Tue, 10-20-2009 - 9:41am

... have more sex.


"American women have long hinted that seeing their husbands doing housework—or at least seeing the results—is an aphrodisiac. Now, for the first time, men confirm that the housework-sex link is real."


Maria Shriver's A Woman's Nation

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Registered: 09-06-2008
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 12:44pm

My DH usually comes home from work and heads to his office to sit in front of the computer and cruise the internet while I cook dinner. Then, after dinner, he heads back to his office.
Well, yesterday was a little hectic because the kids had places to be in the evening. DH came into the kitchen and just started helping with getting dinner on the table with out me asking him. The result was I felt SO much more connected to him than usual. (& yes, I did the whole positive reinforcement thing) Even if it doesn't lead to sex on the spot or even that night, it never hurts to feel connected to your partner and supported.

I happen to know that my "Love language" is gifts of time and service, so, this works for me!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 8:27am

This is hard one for me....because my DH has always "helped" in the cleaning of the house. LOL!


Now that Im out of work....I do my best to do ALL of the cleaning, I even cut the yard, Now that turns him on! LOL!


The biggest thing is "time" and being tried....Im home all day so I do it all so he will have time for me and not be tried. But when we both were working we did it together!

memeblue

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 10:41am
LOL, funny that your doing yardwork turns him on, lol. Hmm, maybe I should learn how to use that fancy riding lawnmower hubby has and see where it gets me, lol. ;)

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 10:52am

I love our riding lawnmower....LOL!


yes when he comes home in the summer and the yard is ALL DONE it does turn him on! LOL! what can I say....hee hee!

memeblue

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 1:07pm
LOL, hey, whatever it takes! ;)

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 1:48pm
As a husband that has always helped around the house, these type articles really piss me off. I have always helped out around the house more than any husband that I know but have never gotten laid more often because of it. My wife has come to expect it while I hear other women make these claims, if only he would help me more...it pisses me off. I feel like as a person that lives in the same house, it is my responsibility to help her around the house, it is my house as well as hers. Also, I want my kids to see that Dad can do most everything that Mom can do, laundry, cooking, cleaning, ironing, etc. I think that is real important for them to see. Now, do I love helping out, no, I can't say
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Tue, 10-27-2009 - 2:14pm

Pappy, I'm sorry you don't reap the benefits this article suggests. However, I whole-heartedly applaud you for helping out around the house not because you expect sexual rewards, but because you view it as your responsibility and want to be a good role model for your children.


I think a lot of couples would be happier if things were more evenly split, especially since one of the top complaints women have is that their men don't help out more often

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Registered: 02-09-2009
Tue, 10-27-2009 - 5:57pm

Pappy is where I was for over 25 years.

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Registered: 07-24-2007
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 10:46am

It really is a catch 22 I believe. I think the number one complaint most men have, at least that

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 11:05am

I do think that's true for *some* but not *all*. I know that in my marriage, only my health issues preclude our having sex more frequently - when I'm feeling good, I'm feeling *really* good, lol, and when I'm not, it's pretty much cuddling only. Hubby understands this, though,

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