wife competing with online porn?

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wife competing with online porn?
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Mon, 03-21-2011 - 1:12pm

I dont mind my husband of 7 years occasionally looking at porn as long as it doesnt interfere with

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 11:18am

Hi Debbie and welcome to the board.

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Tue, 03-22-2011 - 11:28am

Have you tried talking to him about this? Seeing as he didn't close the page, but minimized it, I think it's fair game to bring it up. Let him know how much that hurt you and that you feel like it's a replacement for him not wanting to be with you.



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Registered: 04-17-2006
Fri, 03-25-2011 - 4:17am
Your husband needs some intervention from someone who has been there. There should be no time when he is entertaining himself when you might want some attention, and he needs to change this habit for the sake of your relationship.
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Mon, 03-28-2011 - 1:36am

It could be he just likes looking at the beauty of naked babes. I know I find them the most beautiful things in existance. It's art. Yes, occasionally I use porn to get excited, but mostly I just treat it like an art museum.

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Tue, 04-05-2011 - 10:26am

My wife used to not mind me watching porn as well until we found ourselves in the same situation.

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 7:33pm

My husband and I have been together almost 14 years. I found out about his porn addiction about a year into our relationship. We talked about it and he said he didn't have to look at it because he had me. So he said he quit. Then I found stuff on the computer and would confront him this happened repeatdly. Then he started erasing history then we got a filter and he always got around it. and even bought mags when he was out. This went on for years. Then he said he was not only going to quit for me but for himself. Crock of bull. Anyways, For the last at least 6 years we have had the filters and we openly speak of it and confront it as an addiction just like achol. He says he needs to be held accountable so I don't pry but once or twice a month I'kk ask how it is going. For at lest 4 years he has said everything was fine and he was strong and doing great. I had no reason to believe otherwise. WE had an iternet filter, the computer was in a public spot and worked all the time. But I found out 7 or s months ago it never stopped and I am not sure how he did it but he did.

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 1:46pm

I made it obvious to my DH that i was wanting to be with him this past weekend

How? Once? In an off hand, oh we should do it later? Did you man-handle him, rub up against him, let him know the kitten is frisky, gotta have you right now babe!!!?

trying to schedule some "us" time for sex ... sounds like it was a maybe I could, whatever, kind of deal. Like, if you want to, I want to, but if you don't, I'll just do the laundry

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 1:54pm

Harsh maybe?

Yes

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Mon, 04-25-2011 - 3:05am