is you desire not where it should be

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is you desire not where it should be
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Fri, 07-30-2010 - 9:47am

How is your 'desire' to make love to your DH/DW??


is it where it should be??


What about their desire for you??


What can you do to get your desire up??


memeblue

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 10:58am

How is your 'desire' to make love to your DH/DW?? It's not there anymore


is it where it should be?? No


What about their desire for you?? I think it's non-existent


What can you do to get your desire up?? I have no idea. I gave up


Im not feeling the desire I should, I know its the meds and pain but I need to get that feeling back...so help me out here! Sorry, I have no ideas. Hopefully once the meds get settled in your system and the pain subsides, things will get better for you.



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Registered: 11-15-2009
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 2:15pm

for what it's worth to both of you, i'm sorry your desires are lacking/non-existent at the moment. i hope and pray for both of you it picks up. my desire was lacking in june/july due to work stress so i can relate in a way.

the way i got out of it was just thinking about general therapeutic principles i learned in graduate school. so basically i would focus on the sexual peaks and highlights i've had with my wife. thinking about the emotions, the physicality, the desire i had then, etc. i would sometimes act on it solo to get me back in the mood. then to further reinforce everything i told my wife about it, which turned her on and then we starting talking more and eventually the desire and completion of sex followed suit. well thats my suggestion, i aint a sex therapist but hopefully things get better for everyone