Am I into something too taboo for Taboo?

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Am I into something too taboo for Taboo?
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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 9:47pm
(LOONG)LOL! My "home board" is over at Clashing Libidos and I've been "living" there for...well for maybe a few years?!? I've got a little thread going there, where I make a mention (or threaten, LOL!) of coming over to this board and lo and behold:

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"Hi there,

I'm Daisy from the Taboos board. Could you please describe in detail what this "contraption " is all about. I get that it's some sort of sex toy for men, but I need a full description of what it looks like, what it does, how you attach it and how it makes you feel. And please feel free to post your experiance over at "Taboos" as well.

Thanks

~~DAZ!!

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Thanks for the invite, Daisy!

For a complete physical description (and pictures!), follow the link:

http://www.thecurve2000.com/

I should get a commission for this. Basically, this contraption is a chastity device. I take it that it has not been a hot topic 'round these parts. Hard to believe anyone into the D/s scene would not have heard of it or brought it up before. It's not necessarily a sex toy for men, especially since the keyholder (KH) is usually a woman. It's the sort of thing that makes the man into a sex toy!

The premise is, that men spend an inordinate amount of time and energy pleasuring themselves. The idea of The Curve(tm) or any male chastity device is to take that self-pleasure away, and the KH then uses the leverage of frustration and deprivation (and promise of release as a reward)in order to get pretty much whatever she wants, LOL!! There are reviews on the site and a link to the older CB2000, another chastity device. I think some of you will definitely be getting some new ideas!!

The most thorough treatment of the subject of chastity devices on the net can be found here:

http://www.tpe.com/~altarboy/

Chastity Belts (CBs) are what most people associate with the practice of chastity and mostly with women. But actually, as a fetish thing, it's more of a man's world. Not all men that are into chastity are subs, tho most of them are. And not all people into these devices are even into a BDSM or D/s scene. I'm one of those, which expalains why I haven't sauntered over here sooner. I always felt I was too vanilla-ish. But I've become almost too kinky for my own board, now!

I've only been wearing mine since Friday, and my VERY vanilla wife is out of town until tomorrow night. It has been a VERY enlightening and educational experience, thus far. Generally (you can follow the above for more explicit descriptions) the thing is a cage that goes around the penis, and then the testicles hang between a cuff-like ring and the cage and the lock attaches the two together using spacers and a locking post. The Curve derives it's name from the shape of the cage, which curves downward. Basically, it's the two gonads that keep the thing attached and secure. While wearing it, the idea is that you can't touch yourself, much less masturbate. In actuality, it is possible for a determined person to pull out to have a little fun, but it's very difficult. It is impossible to take the thing completely off while it is locked, provided the rings and spacers are fitted correctly.

When fitted properly, it's pretty comfortable. You can't really tell what it is underneath clothing and can't really see it at all until you sit. Then it can make a person look particularly gifted;-) I wore it to church this morning and altho I felt a little self-concious, I didn't notice anyone acting any different around me. My co-workers will let me know tomorrow, I'm sure, if they see anything strange. And I'll wear it awhile when my wife gets home to see if she notices anything. I'm not planning for any special homecoming activities (i.e. sex), which is why I live on Clashing Libidos! The only give away (besides seeing me naked) is if I'm wearing just my boxers, the lock tends to clack against the cage when I walk. Of course, if there's an erection, it REALLY can stand out. But the liklihood of developing a full erection with this is exceedingly remote.

When an erection begins, the device pulls on the scrotum. While the penis has room to grow some in the curve, the shape does facilitate this insidious pulling which leads to burning which leads to pain. Which leads to an incentive to stop whatever thought or action is causing the erection! Something the female Domme uses to good advantage in the BDSM scene.

It wasn't until I tried to sleep in the thing that this mechanism became crystal clear and graphically illustrated. I woke up 3 different times with early morning wood, and I am usually an exceedingly sound sleeper! I had to physically get out of bed, and walk around until the pressure was relieved. Going to the bathroom (which you have to do sitting down, btw) seemed to help with this. The CB group I subscribe to said this would take awhile but would eventually subside. If I left it off for an extended time, I'd have to start the breaking in process over. While driving to church, I guess I had slipped off into thinking some rather unholy thoughts and knew right away that my mind needed to be directed elsehwere! So the thing *does* work. It not only controls behaviors (masturbation) but also can control thoughts!!

So you see, this can be a VERY powerful device for good or ill, depending upon the disposition of the person who holds the key.

Thanks for the invite, Daisy.-- T-man

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 10:07pm
It sounds like it could lead to alot of fun,hmmm,torturing (in a good way)my dh.hee heeBut I know that's not something that he would go along with. You'll have to let us know how it goes.

One question,though. How long do you wear this? Is it just for a few days or is this for quite a while?

Diane

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Sun, 04-13-2003 - 10:41pm
You might be surprised at how a guy might respond depending upon how into sex he is. Ir is definitely an enhancement. Guys I've written to say they would never go back to sex on demand. Some women get their guys into it by emphasizing how much more secure they feel knowing their guy isn't going to cheat on them and knowing that the guy's atention is focused on them.

This particular device is made for longterm wear. Some guys are in it for *months* at a time. Most are in it for weeks before being released for relief. Certain Domme's use the guys for their pleasure while keeping them locked either via oral sex or by getting a strap-on for him. This is way out there, of course. But some guys love it. As for me, I can see myself wearing it 24/7, especially once this break-in period is over and I can sleep through the night. If I left it off for too long, I'd have to start all over again! -- T-man

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Thu, 04-24-2003 - 4:32pm
So am I correct in assuming that NO ONE here has tried chastity belts or devices in their D/s relationships? Egad. Well, I figured this post deserved an extra bump as maybe some folks might be looking for some new ideas to spice things up or even improve their relationships.--T-man