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| Sun, 03-05-2006 - 11:13am |
I have never tried anal sex before but I am very curious to try. I hear so many people say it feels so good, but I can only see it as being pain. I told my boyfriend this is something I wanna do, he has no objections. Apart from getting anal lube are there any suggestions on how I should ease myself into this. And does it really feel that good, as a woman I dunno what a man feels, but I know I love when my man is in my vagina ...... just not too sure about my ass ............ I NEED SO ADVICE, TIPS, EXPERIENCES.... ANYTHING.

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Welcome artfullover. There are scads of posts and threads on this subject that you can find by going to the "messages about" box above, typing anal, and then clicking GO! You will find a few common themes like using plenty of lube, taking it slow and easy, loosening up first with finger or toy stimulation.
Your anus is even more richly endowed with pleasure type nerve endings than your vagina is and that is the reason many women really enjoy anal sex. It is why even compleley heterosexual men can enjoy anal stimulation even without prostate stimulation. Those same nerve endings are capable of excruciating pain if abused thus the cautions about lube, taking your time, and starting with insertion of someting smaller to loosen things up.
If you are normal at all and your BF is not overly huge, you regularly pass BMs that are just as large in diameter as he is and you can use that experience to your benefit. The muscle action of pushing like you are trying to force a BM will actually relax the sphincter muscles and make penetration much easier. If you are pushing outward, it is impossible for you to clench up like you are trying to hold it in. After a while, you will learn how to simply relax and allow the penetration without the pushing effort.
The one great DON'T is to never insert anything in your vagina after it has been in your anus unless thoroughly cleaned or protected by a condom that can be discarded before vaginal penetration. I am quite sure that somewhere down the line, someone told you that you should always wipe from front to rear after a bowel movement. The same reasons apply in spades with anal sex play.
From the male perspective, I always use a condom because I have experienced bladder and urethral infections that can result from fecal matter being pushed into the urethra during thrusting. Others will tell you that they have never had this problem. For more info, check out:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html
Hope this helps.
Good luck and good loving,
Gary
Edited 3/5/2006 5:01 pm ET by geritolflirt
HiYa!
Here's what I suggest. Use a lot of lube! When I introduced my last gf to anal, I used a small dildo and gradually increased to larger one. She went nutz! I also did the same with my DH. He now loves anal.
Good Luck,
B
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