Anal Sex

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Registered: 01-25-2006
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Sun, 03-05-2006 - 11:13am
I have never tried anal sex before but I am very curious to try. I hear so many people say it feels so good, but I can only see it as being pain. I told my boyfriend this is something I wanna do, he has no objections. Apart from getting anal lube are there any suggestions on how I should ease myself into this. And does it really feel that good, as a woman I dunno what a man feels, but I know I love when my man is in my vagina ...... just not too sure about my ass ............ I NEED SO ADVICE, TIPS, EXPERIENCES.... ANYTHING.

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Registered: 01-02-2001
In reply to: artfullover
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 1:06pm

Welcome artfullover. There are scads of posts and threads on this subject that you can find by going to the "messages about" box above, typing anal, and then clicking GO! You will find a few common themes like using plenty of lube, taking it slow and easy, loosening up first with finger or toy stimulation.

Your anus is even more richly endowed with pleasure type nerve endings than your vagina is and that is the reason many women really enjoy anal sex. It is why even compleley heterosexual men can enjoy anal stimulation even without prostate stimulation. Those same nerve endings are capable of excruciating pain if abused thus the cautions about lube, taking your time, and starting with insertion of someting smaller to loosen things up.

If you are normal at all and your BF is not overly huge, you regularly pass BMs that are just as large in diameter as he is and you can use that experience to your benefit. The muscle action of pushing like you are trying to force a BM will actually relax the sphincter muscles and make penetration much easier. If you are pushing outward, it is impossible for you to clench up like you are trying to hold it in. After a while, you will learn how to simply relax and allow the penetration without the pushing effort.

The one great DON'T is to never insert anything in your vagina after it has been in your anus unless thoroughly cleaned or protected by a condom that can be discarded before vaginal penetration. I am quite sure that somewhere down the line, someone told you that you should always wipe from front to rear after a bowel movement. The same reasons apply in spades with anal sex play.

From the male perspective, I always use a condom because I have experienced bladder and urethral infections that can result from fecal matter being pushed into the urethra during thrusting. Others will tell you that they have never had this problem. For more info, check out:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html

Hope this helps.

Good luck and good loving,
Gary




Edited 3/5/2006 5:01 pm ET by geritolflirt
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:09am
a good lube is essential, but I would caution against using a numbing one like anal eaze as it can numb you enough that you won't know if you're hurting something.


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Registered: 12-22-2005
In reply to: artfullover
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 8:31pm
My two gay male friends use elbow grease (so it must be good!) -- I discovered when we went to a leather store in DC that sold adult stuff.

 

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 8:52pm
it's great stuff!!!!!!!!


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Registered: 01-25-2006
In reply to: artfullover
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 5:16pm
well I was mastrubating the other night and i put a bullet at my anus and the sensation was definitely good...I am warming up to actual penetration, and I will take all the advice I have been given when I do. I have shared all the responses with my boyfriend and so we are well on our way....will keep you posted
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 7:11pm
good luck!


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Registered: 04-17-2001
In reply to: artfullover
Tue, 03-14-2006 - 11:27pm
You may want him to slide a finger in during intercourse to see how you like that sensation. Have you tried a vibe yet? I've used a vibe numerous times on DW.
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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 8:26am

HiYa!

Here's what I suggest. Use a lot of lube! When I introduced my last gf to anal, I used a small dildo and gradually increased to larger one. She went nutz! I also did the same with my DH. He now loves anal.

Good Luck,

B

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 9:11am
OK, you know everyone wants to know...tell us more about anal with your GF.


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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: artfullover
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 10:46am
Concur! when I rent dvd's (very rarely) its usually FF anal. what a turn on!!! makes me want to be a woman at times! LOL

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