Anal sex issues....

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Anal sex issues....
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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 2:14pm

Hi, I have a question, but first, a little background.... Me & my partner have had anal sex, yes, he went slow, yes, used lots of lube, no issues there. But I just can't seem to really enjoy it. I've read that women sometimes enjoy it more than vaginal penetration. I'll admit, it does feel good sometimes. But I can't have an orgasm from only anal. He says I just need to get used to it, and one article I've read says its common to not have an orgasm the first few times. I do want to keep trying, to please him, but mainly to experience an orgasm anally.

So, my question is, how long did it take you to have a orgasm with anal sex?

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Registered: 04-20-2012
Sat, 04-21-2012 - 3:27pm

My wife loves anal and has been into it for at least 15 years. She never gets to orgasm from just anal, though - it always includes either vibrator stimulation or stimulation with my hand (fingers stimulating her anally and vaginally) and mouth. Of course, everyone is different, but it's just as likely you'll always enjoy it but never have an orgasm from it alone.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Sat, 04-21-2012 - 4:09pm
Thanks for the reply! I'm the same, can orgasm from vibrator stimulation while having anal. I just thought that some women had orgasms from only anal.
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Registered: 04-20-2012
Sat, 04-21-2012 - 6:09pm

It's certainly possible - my wife can have an orgasm just from breast play, and sometimes just from performing oral sex (albeit while squeezing her thighs together).

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Registered: 04-12-2012
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 7:42pm

Just curious--have you ever met a woman that can have an orgasm only with anal sex?

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Registered: 04-20-2012
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 1:07pm

Sorry - I'm looking back at my response and noting that my meaning probably didn't come through. I didn't mean "it's possible - I know someone that it happens to" I meant "it's possible - the world is full of possibilities and I wouldn't rule it out". Having said that, my wife is a huge fan and it and clitoral stimulation is sure-fire with her. I don't know/can't remember if it alone has ever done it for her.

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Registered: 01-30-2012
Fri, 11-02-2012 - 4:53pm

I don't know which position you prefer but if you're laying flat on your stomach, you can use your fingers to rub your clit while he's penetrating you. That might set you off and once you've experienced an orgasm while having anal sex, it may be easier for you from that point on. I find that while the initial penetration can be a little uncomfortable, after he's gone deep, the harder the better. I cum intensely every time to the point that he's voiced concern I may actually snap it off, lol.

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Registered: 05-30-2003
Thu, 06-13-2013 - 12:47am

I think you'll probably just have to accept that you can't have an orgasm from anal sex.  I was able to the first time I tried it when I was 14 and to this day I can have an orgasm that way more or less pretty easily.  Based on my chats with girlfriends and a couple of my sisters about this, I don't think you can teach or train yourself to orgasm this way.  If you do it you'll probably just have to for your partner's pleasure and that isn't a bad thing, no?  

--Hugs!