Anal Sex - Is it really Taboo anymore?

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Anal Sex - Is it really Taboo anymore?
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:07am

Sorry, some how I got a few of the mens questions in the wrong place.

With all the talk these days about anal sex, anal play etc. I'm wondering is it really Taboo anymore?

For those of you who engage in anal sex:

Do you discuss it openly with your friends?

Do you dicuss other parts of your sex life openly but shy away from discussing anal sex because it is still considered taboo by many?

Do most of them engage in anal sex or are they shocked when you bring it up?

For the ladies:

The first time you had anal sex did you request it or did your partner?

Do you really enjoy it or is it just ok but you know it pleases your partner so you go along?

How old were you the first time you had anal sex? Were you married or dating?

Do you allow your partner to ejaculate in your anus? If so, can you feel anything or is it just another mess to clean up?

For the guys:

The first time you had anal sex did you request it or did your partner?

Does it really feel that much different or is it the Taboo factor that makes it appealing?

How old were you the first time you had anal sex? Were you married or dating?

Have you ever had anal play/sex performed on you?

Would you allow your partner to use a strap on, on you?




Edited 3/29/2006 11:37 am ET by nova84

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:28am

Do you discuss it openly with your friends?



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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:32am

I would still consider it taboo.

DW does anal play on me and like me to play with her anus maily rubbing and a little pressure but no actual penetration.

She used to work with a gay male who would tell her all about his wild nights of sex. Then would talk to here about what she should do to me sometime and how much I would like it even not being gay. One day she came home from work and was talking about their conversation and I could tell she was getting excited. I asked her if she wanted to try it and she jumped all over it.

She used a condom over her finger and lots of KY I laid on my back with my butt just off the edge and relaxed. She got on her knees and slowly worked her finger then fingers into me. She said it was the hardest she had ever seen me and before long I came without any stroking or sucking.

The cool thing we discoved is when we do this as play I actually stay rock hard after the inital ejaculation and can last for a long long time afterwards before I cum again.

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Registered: 10-13-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:40am
DW has never expressed an interest in penetrating me, I'm not sure how I would react. I probably would let her if she wanted to. After your wife saw how you reacted to the finger penetration wasn't she or you curious about trying to use fingers on her?
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:44am

Not really,

There are times when I am giving her oral and I rubbing and applying a little pressure she pushes against me harder. I have thought this to mean she wants me to penetrate her but the one time I started she asked me not to penetrate.

Lately she has been pushing harder and I send her what I call "21 questions" weekly about sex. This week I asked if she would like for me to - we will have to wait for her response to find out if I can proceed.

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:24pm
Sure its Taboo! My wife won't even try it!!!
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Registered: 10-13-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 12:31pm
I'm assuming she's never tried it as opposed to tried it before and didn't like it? Is she open to other things or does she have many taboos? If you don't mind my asking how old is she? I'm curious if there are generational differences in attitudes towards anal sex.
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Registered: 02-04-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:04pm
No, I don't mind you asking. Shes mid 40s.
Never tried it...never will.
Not really open to anything other than regular sex...no porn, no toys, no anal, no threesome. Gives me oral occassionally but doesn't like it done to her.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:16pm

It's still taboo in my group of friends, but then, they think it's really shocking to be talking about bjs, lol.

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Registered: 10-13-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:22pm

Lucky,

I can understand his contradictory reactions, it's not easy for most men to let go of their inhibitions even if anal play feels good. My DW has never expressed any interest in trying anal play on me but I'm not sure how I'd react if she did.

I'm just curious why you have been enjoying anal play and anal sex with a dildo for quite a while but have not tried actual anal intercourse? Is he reluctant or you?

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 1:35pm

Well, the dildo thing happened just, like, the last time we spent the night together, so that's new.

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