Biting?

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Biting?
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 1:51pm

Hi. Kind of a lurker here, but now I have a question. Has anyone ever gotten into biting...to the point of blood?

Here's what happened. Last night was the longest most amazing night of sex I have ever had in my life. This man makes me do and say things that I have only fantasized about before. I even squirted for the first time last night....three times. He is up for anything and everything, and loves that I completely let go around him. I've been known to be rather shy about my fantasies and desires in the past. Rather uptight to be exact, except in my private fantasies. (Which explains the lurking on this board.)

Anyway, at one point he bent his head and bit my arm. Hard, to the point of blood. He said he likes to bite and it is a hell of a turn on for him. It hurt a lot, but the intensity of the feeling and his reaction to it was really a turn on too. Even afterward when he gently touched the marks and kissed them. Now today, I don't like that I have a big bruise and teeth marks, but I tingle everytime I look at the marks he made.

Not sure what my exact question is, I guess I'd just like to know some of your thoughts and insight on the whole biting thing. I want to be open to it, but it really was never even on my radar before last night.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:01pm
Welcome, numbersgirl. For people who are into it, pain play can be very ... intoxicating is a good word for it. It's an endorphin high, similar to what runners experience from exercising. Many people combine this with D/s play, and the pain can help the sub focus and get their head into sub space. If you're planning on continuing to include this in your love life, it's important to listen to your body and learn to tell the difference between "hurts so good" and "bad hurt", and to let your partner know when it becomes too much.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:02pm
HI, I am glad you came out of lurkdom!


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Registered: 11-11-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:25pm

Very true bostonsteve, there is a difference between good hurt and bad hurt. When he bit my arm, like I said, it was a turn on, but he also bit my finger and that HURT! It is still numb. I guess I just need to find the places it is ok to bite vs. the ones that aren't??

To answer your questions littlemascara, it may be part of a control thing, but we seem to evenly share that. At least we have since he taught me to let go and take charge. Depending on the mood, it can be slow and sweet or it can be pretty rough, especially during doggie style and anal, but no complaints on either of those!!

I just can't believe the things he has done to me over the past few weeks. He opened the door to everything I always wanted to do, but never thought I actually could. Hope it isn't Pandora's Box. LOL Wish he could come back tonight.....

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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:31pm
when will you see him again?


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Registered: 11-11-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:44pm
well, I'm going out of town next weekend, but I am crossing my fingers for Thursday night, before my flight.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 2:46pm
CROSSING MY FINGERS AND TOES! xXXx


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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sat, 03-25-2006 - 5:10pm

Welcome out of lurkdom, numbersgirl.

 

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Registered: 01-29-2006
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 1:33pm
OK, I admit, I do bite my SO during sex. Definitely not hard enough to be even remotely close to drawing blood, but there is some faint bruises sometimes. He's just so sexy, I can't help but sink my teeth into him...but not TOO hard.
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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Sun, 03-26-2006 - 3:08pm

Others gave you great advice and stories.

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Registered: 08-12-2005
In reply to: numbersgirl77
Mon, 03-27-2006 - 6:52am

sounds like you had an awesome night.

I'm not sure i'd like biting that hard. I do like nibbling and such...gentle bites and such....

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