Careful what you wish for

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Registered: 08-21-2006
Careful what you wish for
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 6:17pm
I am a 44 year old guy married 8 years to my attractive 38 year old wife. No kids. Our relationship was fine if a bit boring. Rather than attempt to spice it up I suggested that we experiment at "opening" our marriage. At first she was adamantly opposed, but I kept at it finally telling her that I intended to have an affair with female salesperson at a trade show. She then agreed. When I left for the trade show my wife sought out a neighbor who is not only our local skirt chaser but also brags about his affairs. While never a huge fan of fellatio my wife preformed it on him later telling me that it was like being reborn.She even had a climax when she swallowed his sperm. She then hung 3 straight nights at our local bar while I was at the trade show getting picked up by other locals having oral, intercourse or both with each in our bedroom. My attempt at a affair was a disaster with me being unable to preform. She continues to have sex with other men bringing them into our home when I am out of town until recently when I called telling her that I would be home a day early (in about a hour) & she said that it was up to me but she had a house guest & that I would have to sleep in the spare bedrooms. Imagine the torture & embarrassment of listing to her have sex with another man in the next room. She is a "singer" & is very loud. I stayed in the room until he had left in the AM. She then told me that she would be bringing other guys home when I was there as it is very exciting for her. My outside sex life has consisted of massage parlor hand & blow jobs since my one disastrous attempt was broadcast to all by the women I was to sleep with. my wife tells me she is having a ball & has no intention of slowing down. Her behavior is known through out are small city & I am often smirked at, laughed behind my back or even on occasion to my face.Be very careful what you wish for!

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 3:59pm
lol well if she feels that way then who knows maybe in checking out some sites you will find someone else's wife that feels the same way????????? and she may find herself enlightened a little as well. just be careful and play safe..and keep the communication lines open..
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Registered: 07-24-2006
Thu, 09-14-2006 - 8:34pm

Hi Pieamante,
I must admit, I am a little of a skeptic about many things--so don't get offended, I'm not calling you a liar. However, I wasn't so much saying that I didn't believe your story of "submission and degradation", it was just odd how your wife went from being completely against the open relationship to all but telling that she's going to continue to do this no matter whether you like it or not. I've just rarely heard of that happening, but then everyone reacts differently. I wonder if she's doing all of this out of spite since you really sort of forced her hand to be involved with this sort of activity. When you threaten someone into doing something, it normally doesn't turn out well, and karma has a way of coming back to get us for the things we do. However, I'm still sorry to hear that your marriage has taken the turn it has, especially since you seem to be displeased/hurt about it. I don't necessarily agree with your sex counselor who told you that you subconsciously wanted to see your wife degrade you by having sex with other men in your home without your consent. To me it just sounds like a little bullying on your end that didn't have the intended outcome, but rather backfired.

But anyway, no one is judging your lifestyle and I'm familiar with the activities of dominatrixes and the like. I still hold to my original comment that it sounds like the perfect framework for a story! That's not necessarily a bad thing, as I said before, real life events can often sound the most incredible. If you were to submit this as an entry to a erotic literature website I bet it'd get a lot of hits because there are many people who are turned on by these types of scenarios. As for you and your wife, maybe you should try apologizing to her for even threatening an affair in the first place, and then from there try talking to her about how this makes you feel that she wants to continue to do this against your wishes. You guys should probably seek out couples counseling and maybe the intervention of a traditional sex counselor. This may all be a thrill now, but I'm sure you're not going to want to carry on with this situation for years to come. I just have a feeling, that if this is really happening, then you're both going to have to go through a long healing & rebonding process. Good luck with everything.

Chakra

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