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Checking 'em out
| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 10:02pm |
So I find myself looking around alot lately as in "checking out gals". I think I've mentioned it before as I kind of feel guilty for doing it. Just today I was scoping out some woman at the restaurant where I ate lunch. Not in a stalker or hitting on her sort of way but a lot of visual inspection.
I feel bad doing it as my wife doesn't do that to other guys. I know that sound like a naive way of thinking but she really doesn't. I kind of feel bad for doing it but its just such a primative response...
Am I a pig?
I feel bad doing it as my wife doesn't do that to other guys. I know that sound like a naive way of thinking but she really doesn't. I kind of feel bad for doing it but its just such a primative response...
Am I a pig?

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Personally, I feel it's inconsiderate in most relationships
maggie kelly,
I think maybe its been "lately" as my mind has been wandering as DW and I's sex life has really slowed down. Years ago when we would do it frequently, I didn't even notice other gals but not that we're down to 1-3 times per month, I still have a HL and find myself enjoying the scenery...but never with her around for the reasons you mentioned.
A friend and I were talking about looking at women a few years ago, and I told him that when I see a woman who appeals to me, I just basically zone out. I may think, oh, those are pretty, but after that I pretty much turn into Homer Simpson. I've caught myself looking at a woman's breasts without realizing I was doing it, and then thought a second later, oh, man, I'm looking at her breasts, and now she's probably caught me looking, and I'm busted--even though I wasn't even getting anything out of it!
My friend, on the other hand, maintained that he would often look at a woman and immediately begin thinking of having sex with her. And I was really surprised that I had lived as long as I had without being aware of this distinction in what goes on in people's minds. But my friend and I are both reasonably well-behaved, profligate and promiscuous at times, perhaps, but without criminal histories, and we both know how to treat a lady. In other words, we're just guys.
The thing is, there's nothing in this world that's more fun to look at than a pretty girl. And that's as it should be; after all, our primary purpose here is to keep the species going, and we need some sort of motivation. And of course women know this, and they expect to be looked at (and sometimes might even be a little disappointed if we didn't. :) ). But we men are expected to be at least semi-socialized these days, so be polite about it. Just don't actually drool when you're out in public--if you're out with your wife, at least--and everything will be fine.
Tampa~
I don't see anything wrong with you checking out the scenery. How you describe it, you are not being a pig about it all - just enjoying what you see - not drooling or making a fool out of yourself. You are just being a guy and showing you are still alive! lol
When my husband was alive I never had a problem with him looking - heck some times it was I who pointed a woman out to him! I think it may be a security thing tho..... I knew when all was said and done, he was coming home with me. And it was a two way street - sometimes he would nudge me and say "what do you think?".
Enjoy the scenery - we'll worry about you when you post that you aren't noticing anymore! Unless it's because you've told us your wife has been keeping you busy again! Then we'll all just be happy for you.
lust
Good girls are just bad girls who haven't gotten caught yet!
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