Couples going to stip cubs together?

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Registered: 07-31-2006
Couples going to stip cubs together?
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Mon, 07-31-2006 - 12:12pm

-also posted on Secrets of Married Sex board -

My dh and I are trying to spice things up. After 10 years and 2 kids, things are starting to get boring.

We've started watching porn together and I'm finding that I'm VERY turned on by watching two females together. I'm starting to fantasize about another woman touching me while my dh is going down on me. I would never take this to the next level by inviting another woman into our bed.

HOWEVER, I was thinking that it would be fun to go to a strip club together. Do couples do this? If so, what has been your experience?

I've NEVER been in a strip club and dh only for bachelor parties. But the thought of him watching another woman give me a lap dance, turns me on and I think it will help us that night in bed.

Thanks for your thoughts, suggestions, advice, and experience!

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Registered: 04-01-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 4:38pm

Hi. Can I join in? You all seem like just the type of people I need to talk to since I live in the sheltered deep South!!!! I can't even say the word "porn" without women looking at me funny. Oh, and I think anal sex is still illegal here.

Anyway, just thinking about you and your dh going to a strip club turns ME on! I think my dh and I are going to try that soon. We've been married 16 years and we have an 8yo boy. We are pretty limited in our choices of clubs here, though. Plus, my dh is a teacher and, well, "Hi Dr. ____. Fancy seeing you here." It's bad enough that the poor guy went to the porn shop and one of his students was working there!

We may travel out of town to Atlanta so we don't get caught....lol!

Good luck and have fun getting those titties squished in your face. Yummy!!!

Sushi.

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Registered: 04-01-2006
Mon, 07-31-2006 - 4:42pm

So, Alexandria is a swinging town, eh? LOL.

Sushi.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:34am

Welcome to the board, snickscat.

 

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 6:09am

It is not uncommon for women to join the dh / bf at a strip club. Before going I would enquire what type of club it is and what their rules were. If it is a gentlemen's club women attending with their bf / dh tends to be discourage as it takes away from their 'focus' on the women. Some strip clubs just have strippers and no lap dancers so you may just see strippers.

As for spicing things up. I would say you are walking a very thin rope here. The reason being you may think seeing a woman doing a lap dance for your husband is a turn on but you may find it is something that you cannot emotionally handle. Also seeing your husband eyeing another woman as erotic it may seem could prove to charge your emotions especially if you cannot deal with eye glancing at another woman while you are out with. My recommendation would be to take a slow and not to rush it. If you are the type that has jealousy issues I would recommend thinking about your reactions and how you are preparing to deal with them so that it does not have a negative impact on your relationship.

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 8:01pm
This is going to be a long answer but it is the only way I know to answer. I was married for 11 years. My sex life was going down hill as well. One night my husband asked if we could watch a porno and I said yes. I know that is not a strip club but hang with me. That night we made love like we haven't in a long time. In hind sight it was nothing more than sex. I did not know that at the time. It happened more and more. Eventually that led to him leaving me for another woman. He saw it as sex and I saw it as spicing things up. Honey, you want to make love to your husband not just having sex. Pornogrophy broke our marriage up. What if a girl dances for you and on you and you don't like it? What if your husband does? Do you want him on you thinking of another woman? Only you can answer that.If you think being with another woman is exciting, then leave it to your masturbating thoughts. Don't set him up or yourself for something you think is exciting but down the road might break you up.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 3:14pm

Hi, Jenn.

 

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 3:58pm
I agree that one trip to the strip club won't make or break a marriage. However, I would feel awful if the next time they made love and he was thinking of someone else in stead of giving his wife what she wanted.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 4:13pm

Yeah, I think it depends on what

 

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 4:22pm
I agree with you. A strong marriage cannot be torn apart by one act.....Hopefully
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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 4:26pm
I think it depends on the act and the people involved. A lot of little things failed to destroy my marriage during a long rough stretch, but I think one act of infidelity on my part would have resulted in a divorce.

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