Crawling outta the woodwork for SEX HELP

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Registered: 01-11-2006
Crawling outta the woodwork for SEX HELP
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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 3:50pm

Hey guys...long time no see huh? Miss a bunch of ya!


Ok....I need the same old advice I have always been seeking but I guess I need a refresher. The past week with my DH has been amazing He has initiated every day if not every other at the least. Now....for the past 4-5 days its came to a screeching hault. I have tried to talk to him about it but thats 1 conversation he avoids. A few friends of mine suggested maybe he felt I was only wrapped up in his "member" and forgetting him as my husband. For the past 4-5 days I have ignored the fact that I am high libido and craving more and more. I know its not what marriage is all about, trust me we have some great times that aren't sexual. Its not anything medical, we done cleared all that. It cannot be stress, lately its been so much less stressful around here than normal. Yeah, I have gained a few pounds and don't feel as sexy but what else can it be? When I try to initiate he looks at me with a look of "back off nympho". I know he is still interested. He just told me a night ago about a joke he seen in Hustler magazine at work. Why am I not interesting anymore and what can I do to be less sexual and get over this? Solo sex only goes so far for so long. HELP!!!

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 4:53pm
Its half funny and kinda refreshing to see a woman crying out for help after a period of abstinence of just 4-5 days! Don't start blaring the sirens, I don't think this is an urgent situation...sometimes the mind of even a high libido person takes a small break from sex. Now mind you...you are talking to a high libido person who is enslaved to a once a week regimen by his much lower libido spouse. Don't make an issue of such a short timeframe just yet...just pull out the seduction stops and if that doesn't work a simple 'how can you resist this?!' was you give him a wiggle or a stroke or something accompanied by a sly smile, and see what the answer is. It'll come back...you'll see!
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 4:57pm
I agree....4-5 days is not time to call the sex police.


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Registered: 05-24-2003
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 12:36pm

heheh...the funny thing??

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 1:50am

I think if you start fretting about it after just 4-5 days, after things have been great, it's likely to make him feel pressured and things will start going downhill fast.