DH gets a Lap Dance

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Registered: 01-22-2002
DH gets a Lap Dance
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Fri, 07-07-2006 - 11:25am

ladies,
Read a post on another board and made me think of this. I have been to a strip club before and paid for lapdances before. Not in a while because it is a little expensive.
It is not unusual that during a lap dance, obviously I have all my clothes on an she has nothing but panties/g-string, she will grind away and cause me to have an orgasm.
There is technically no touching by me, other on her sides or she may brush ner nipples across my lips.

Is this cheating?

How would you feel?

Have you ever been there and watched your hubby get a lap dance?

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Registered: 06-07-2006
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 12:02pm

<> Whether it's cheating or not depends on how you and your wife feel about this kinda thing. Me personally, I don't think it's cheating. But that's just me.

<> I wouldn't have a problem with him being at a strip club, but I don't know about him having some woman grind on him, especially if he's my husband. But I don't think I would make a big deal about it. If it was an every-week-gotta-be-at-the-strip-club kinda situation, then I would be p'd off. I would much prefer doing it for him and having him get off by me. But I've never been in that kind of situation, so I don't know how exactly I would react or feel.

<> I've never been in this kind of situation. But I don't know if I'd want to go and watch him get a lap dance from a stripper, cause then I'd probably compare myself to what she was doing and I'm not sure how I'd stack up to her in that department. Then again, I could probably learn something from her.

But as I said before, everyone's different. Does your wife know you were there?

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Registered: 01-22-2002
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:00pm
she knows I have been to a strip club. Does she know that I had a lap dance and an orgasm...no. She is not the type of person to make a big deal about it, although that does not imply i think she would be happy about it either. I think if it is a situation that I'm with a couple of friends and we go out for a few...(Rare occaision) then she doesn't have a problem with it(or enough of a prolem to make it an issue).
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Registered: 06-07-2006
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:28pm

That's another thing, I'd prefer him going with a few friends than going alone. Not that I'm saying it's not possible for men to cheat when his friends are around, but it seems more like a fun thing when going with friends. I know some women don't like their men going to strip clubs because they're scared of the comparison. Also, some men (however few) get obsessed with going to the clubs and their ladies are no longer good enough. And when ladies (some) hear about this, they get a bit worried about that happening to them.

But as long as it's just on rare occasions, then I wouldn't have a problem with it. Probably wouldn't want to hear the details though, lol.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 07-08-2006 - 8:07am

IMO, cheating~no.



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Registered: 05-21-2006
Sat, 07-08-2006 - 12:15pm

In all honestly id be upset and a little angry that my SO was going to a strip club and having an orgasm because of another woman.

I think its cheating because your getting physical with somebody else.

Would you like your wife/SO going to another guy and having an orgasm with him ? Its personal IMO.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 12:21am

To me, it would be cheating and I would be very upset if my dh did that.

 

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Mon, 07-10-2006 - 3:56pm

(My reply is coming from a woman who swings with her husband, and thoroughly enjoys watching her husband have sex with another woman while we're together with another couple or single.)