Do you really??????
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Do you really??????
| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 12:59pm |
There is always a lot of talk on this board about cyber sex. What I'd like to know is if people who say they have cyber sex really do? I tend to think of cyber sex as a mainly male idea to "get off". Most women that I know tend to look at cyber sex as nasty and would never do it. How many (definatly curious about women) who say they have cyber sex honestly do? Or are you just typing that you do and don't? How into it do you get? Do you get completely naked? Use toys?
I'm really curious about the people that do this so...if you reply could you please state your age/sex/and relationship status.
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To quickly answer my own question...
I am Male/35 and married.
I have on occasion had cyber sex. I ALWAYS do what I say I am doing when having cyber (else what's the point). If I say I'm naked...I'm naked! If I say I'm doing something...than I am.
But of course, I'm male, so do I fit the typical male cyberer???
Interesting questions....
I'm female... 27... married.
I've been cybering for about a year or so. I have a few regular partners... one favorite. If none of them are online I'll go to an erotic chat site and find someone if I'm really horny.
I always do what I say I'm doing... what's the point in lying? If I'm cybering with someone I'm really horny and really want to orgasm, so I'm going to take care of it ;) Sometimes there's just no one interesting to be found.. if that's the case I'll read a story online and masturbate. I'm usually dressed... very seldom do I undress, unless he requests it or I'm playing in front of the webcam. I am usually wearing something that's easy for me to slide my hand into, though ;)
I don't cyber *right now*, but I was the cyber sex queen not too terribly long ago. It was a new experience for me and so it was exciting. I tried to do it again not too long ago and I just could NOT get into it. It was so dang boring, so it is *definitely* not for me anymore.
Anyway, my answer is going to be kinda complicated because I usually wouldn't just cyber with anyone. I would normally only cyber with people that I had known (and by known I mean just chatted with them about things other than sex) and more times than not it would lead into cyber sex. Out of the people that I cybered with, I would say that about 80% of the time I was really masturbating. Most times, no one ever asked me if I was so I never had to tell them the truth if I wasn't. Now, on the rare occasions that I cybered with someone that I didn't know, I can practically gaurantee that I wasn't masturbating. I'm sure that I lied to some and told them I was when they DID ask, but I primarily was never asked.
Oh and by the way, I am 37/female/happily married
This all can have it's pitfalls in that things can get 'deep'. And though I have not really minded it, sometimes I wonder if there is an element of it 'just being sex' that I am missing. Well, I am not striving to find that out right now, since I take it very very personally if I ever hurt someone. That is the last thing ever on my mind.
I find it best when a fantasy situation can be built rather than just "I am doing this and that". Isn't that what it really is anyway? Sharing fantasy lives in a psuedo fantasy situation with another?
Edited 7/5/2006 1:44 pm ET by talbed
I had done this a few times in my life and enjoyed it immensely. One girl was on a dating site and we actually did meet and have sex.
The other was more recently and really just for fun, however I guess I ended up hurting the other party as they became emotionally involved in a short time.
Since then, I will not cyber. I never intended to hurt anyone, and thought that was a mutual understanding among cyberers. I certainly don't want to hurt anyone again so I will refrain.
I could not keep up due to work load and she got mad at me...acted like I used her.
She is on the other side of the world from me...I just didn't get it. I thought it was fun. Oh well, live and learn. Just don't want to hurt anyone.
Yes I really have cybered. I'm 40, female, married.
I have gotten emotionally attatched and got very hurt but, not gonna go there.
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