dominance/submission

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Registered: 04-04-2003
dominance/submission
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Fri, 04-04-2003 - 1:21pm
Have lurked here for a few days and didn't see anything in archives on what I was looking for exactly but am looking for websites about this subject but not the hardcore stuff if anyone can help with that I'd appreciate it. Thanks.

dawne

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 5:22pm
Hi there;

I've got tons of stuff bookmarked. What kind of sites would you like? My DH and i are into D/s in a big way. Most of the sites are Male as master, female as sub. Is there anything specific you are looking for ?? I will post some links for you if you'd like!

http://cuffs.com/submission/lifestyle.html

http://www.cyberhell.net/dsGuide/index.asp

There's two links for you for now, if you like, I can post more links~I have links on lots of stuff, like Gor, how to make toys, reccommended reading for BDSM...

Just let me know and I'd be happy to help ;D

Lisa

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 7:55pm
I don't know exactly what you are looking for, but I am developing a site on caring domination. It is written for submissive husbands and vanilla wives, but it could be useful to anyone. But there is almost nothing on traditional BDSM, if that is what you are looking for.

http://www.cair4.com

Everything is free.

Cynthia

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Fri, 04-04-2003 - 9:30pm
Thanks I'll have to check these sites out. My fiancee and I have discovered we want to do this, he the dominant but not the torture or stuff like that and that it is 24/7 thing.


dawne

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Registered: 04-06-2003
Sun, 04-06-2003 - 12:06pm
Just a few words. There are many people on the internet who play at D/s. Particularly there are people who callthemselves doms who think ds is an excuse for abusing, insulting, and mistreating women. There are also people who think of it as a costume party, fashion statement, weekend kind of stuff. Real DS comes out of a relationship, and it expresses how deeply committed and needy both the dom and the submissive are to the close bonding of that relationship both emotionally and sexually. I have met people who have tried to use DS either as the D or the S to jump over the problems inherent in relationships, particularly being close and loving. However, in a real ds situation, not just playing, the closeness and the loving is more concentrated, centered, and worked on and at, than in a vanilla relationship. Finally, DS is not something to do for fun. It can be an alluring fantasy, but in a relationship it requires as much or more work and struggle than a vanilla relationship, but for someone who reqally needs this in their heart, in their soul, and in their body, it can be totally fulfilling.

Love to all
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:15pm
castle realm is a great learning source. I did alot of studying there myself. and also the sub shop is great also.castle realm does both sides of BDSM.. sub shop is about a sub and her life as a sub. both very good.also there are many great books mine is ties that bind also BDSM 101..screw the roses give me the throns.. Ive read most ..all great reading material.. hope this helps Kallie
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Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 04-10-2003 - 2:24am
I have read some of these messages (and checked the websites mentioned) and have to admit that its a real turnon.

I have been in Dom/Sub relationships and loved it; it's a real turn on for me.

I am presently married to a vanilla and hmmmm although, he would be a good Dom 24/7 it just doesn't happen in the bedroom. He feels the need to be loving while at other times he has the need to be controlling which I actually handle rather well. I think because I am a strong individual and will not be railroaded. I manage to balance things well.

I realize that its a definite need that I have in the bedroom and need to do some teaching in this area.

Any comments or suggestions would be appreciated.