Domme turning sub????

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Domme turning sub????
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Tue, 04-08-2003 - 3:39pm
yesterday was discussion day for hubby and I.We have lived the BDSM lifetysle for a 4 yrs.With I being the top.the Way I like it. but now he admited that he would like to switch meaning him being top and I becoming sub.My biggest fanasty is being forced in to slavery for life. an dhe is saying he would like to live 24/7 now.(before it was our way of life we did attend munches and balls and such but we lived a vanilla life during day)He would like for me to wear a collar, and so fourth..now it does turn my bouttons to do this..BUT I am so very Dominate. is it possable for a Domme who is very strong, turn submissive? even with proper traning? actaully I am very confused and ghe knwos this..but has already started some traning. I told him I owuld defenitly ahve to be forced in to submisisve but its like a challenge for me. like I pretend to be submissive but then I will bad talk and be rebeliouse so I can get discplined..I enjoy pain.I need suggestions..anything will help thanks.
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Registered: 04-06-2003
Wed, 04-09-2003 - 6:37pm
Is it possible?? Of course it is. Will it be easy? Probably not. The stronger you are, the harder it will be. However, hard is not necessarily BAD. In fact, there is something to be said for challenging yourself in this way. It can open up so many new parts of yourself.

Lol, pretending to be submissive in order to get in trouble, isn't uncommon. Even for people who aren't naturally dominate. My dh and I do the dom/sub thing. And I am a terribly naughty slave. That is what works for us. Roleplaying (or maybe not playing lol) the BRAT is just as valid as playing the pliant and well behaved slave. If you were perfectly submissive all the time, don't you think that would be incredibly boring for both of you??

Truly, there are many ways to bottom...just like there are many ways to top. The important thing is that you are both enjoying yourselves. For me, the struggle is part of the turn on. It doesn't make me a bad sub, at least not in my opinion.

Remember, it isn't a matter of flipping a switch. Think of it as an adventure...a journey of discovery...the discovery of your submissiveness. Your Dom has to find it in iside of you and bring it out. That is the challenge. The destination (submissiveness) isn't all that important...having fun on the way IS.

have fun, play safe!

Audrey

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 04-10-2003 - 10:43am
I think the Dom/Sub thing takes two very strong individuals anyway. You might actually enjoy it.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 04-13-2003 - 8:36am
*waves*

HeyLo!

I'd have to agree with Audrey.

Above all else, it should be safe, and fun.

Think of all those 'Bigtime Power' types that LOVE to be dominated. In fact most will tell you they NEED it. It helps relieve the stress and strain of holding and weilding such a powerful postion in their everyday lives.



Course you're gonna rebel...what self respecting Dom wouldn't?

Enjoy!

~Luna~