Entirely Depressing

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Entirely Depressing
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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 5:38pm
Ok I have come to the conclusion that even though I am the biggest lurker here I probably need to quit reading this board....it is killing me. I am married and my sex life is about as adventurous as a two 90 year olds playing checkers on the front porch. My sex life never will be adventurous due to my DW's strict relgious upbringing, etc. I read about all of the fun everyone is having...oral sex, anal, just down right fun with each other...and I get depressed. So many things I will never have.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 5:54pm

Aw, hugs, baby.

 

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 6:24pm
There is no way I could even approach this with her. I mean the sex we do have is pretty nice, but no adventure...9X's out of 10 it is missionary, foreplay is kissing a bit...I LOVE going down on her but she rarely lets me and when she does it is for a few seconds, I finally quit asking.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 6:37pm

Well, you can continue being miserable or you can talk to her.

 

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 6:40pm
Yeah if only you knew...there is NO WAY I could bring this subject up. Her religious unbringing being what it is (I have the same religion by the way but I feel like a husband and wife should be able to enjoy each other and have fun) and how it permeates our lives make it impossible. I would be considered a pervert if I brought some of the mild things on this board up. Oh well, I have resigned myself to this.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 7:51pm
I totally can relate to this. I'm kinda in the same boat. DH doesn't like to talk about it. So, I've given up. Sorry, it's no help but at least you know it's not just you.



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Registered: 06-24-2006
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 11:53pm
Wow dog, as much as you might think these boards are depressing for you, It's great that you felt comfortable enough to join and post something about how your feeling, we may not be able to change your situation, but you will realize that there are a few in the same boat as you are. So dont look at coming on the boards to see what others are doing that your not, come here with an open mind to meet new people, laugh and have a good time. So welcome ok!!!

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 2:24am
Trust me, there are plenty of us not having a fun sex life! Many of us just hang out here for the company.

 


 


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Registered: 12-27-2006
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 7:00am

I don't have a solution, except keep trying. I don't know your age or child status, but resentment is going to continue to grow and fester. Some resign themselves to it, some cheat, some leave.

Alot of religious organizations/groups have come out saying 'married' sex should not be just white bread (depends on affiliation). You may want to research and show her these articles. Support its ok to enjoy sex and experiment within marriage (I've read, some even allow anal).

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 7:47am
Would you mind sharing your religion with us?


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Registered: 08-23-2006
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 8:41am
I don't think enjoyable sex is his problem. Its fun/different sex. I don't think you'll find too many teaching in the bible about anal or tying someone up. I know how you feel. My ex girlfriend was like that. She wanted sex all the time but basically it was, I'll lie down and you do your work. That is one of the main things that led me to my DW.

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