Yes I have. If you have 2 or more lovers I don't see any reason to force an only one a week, or one a day rule that I have heard and read about some people keeping.
I also don't have any issue with whose bed it is or if it's the same hotel I was with another lover.
If we're NOT talking about threesomes, my answer is still yes. I've done some bad things. :-( I was engaged to another guy when I met DH; I bed-hopped for a while between the two of them. Then later, I got involved with a couple of other guys while now-DH and I were living together but not necessarily committed completely to one another. They knew about him; he didn't know about them. Then when we opened our marriage in 2000, I had a beau that DH knew about but wasn't keen on. I would go to him once a week or so and we'd tear it up, then I'd go crawl into bed with my husband.
In those situations, I always felt bad about it. Even now, I feel some significant guilt. It's completely different when everyone is on the same page and there are no secrets. I felt bad when I had those two guys on the side, but I felt great when I had sex with three or four guys in the same night with DH's approval (and that's not something I want to do again!! Too tiring!!).
"Infants have their infancy. And adults? Adultery." -Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton, "The Myth of Monogamy"
I can't figure it out, but yes, inadvertantly. The Hubby shows zero interest in me for weeks and weeks, but each time I have been with my current lover, H has shown interest that night??!! Who knows??!! Maybe some primative man thing?!
YES, it is a primitive man thing!! Actually, it's a much older instinct than that... It shows up in many, many species. It's instinct, because... well, to be VERY graphic, the last male to deposit semen in the female is the most likely to father the offspring. It's not like your husband is actually trying to make you pregnant or anything, but there is a lot of theorizing in the evolutionary biology field that the reason some men get so turned on by their wives having sex with another man is that the instinct to have sex immediately with her afterwards is so strong... it makes her that much more appealing/irresistible/screwable to him. It's exciting to the *last man* because of millions of years of evolution favoring the last man to have sex with a woman... he is the most likely to father the child.
Isn't that just FASCINATING?!?!?!? Is it like he can hardly contain himself, and he has no idea why he gets so turned on??
Gawd I love this stuff.
I'm going to put my nose back in my own business now. But I just *had* to share, in case anyone else gets as excited about this stuff as I do.
"Infants have their infancy. And adults? Adultery." -Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton, "The Myth of Monogamy"
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Same here
Yes I have. If you have 2 or more lovers I don't see any reason to force an only one a week, or one a day rule that I have heard and read about some people keeping.
I also don't have any issue with whose bed it is or if it's the same hotel I was with another lover.
Heheheh!!!
Okay, my details.
If we're NOT talking about threesomes, my answer is still yes. I've done some bad things. :-( I was engaged to another guy when I met DH; I bed-hopped for a while between the two of them. Then later, I got involved with a couple of other guys while now-DH and I were living together but not necessarily committed completely to one another. They knew about him; he didn't know about them. Then when we opened our marriage in 2000, I had a beau that DH knew about but wasn't keen on. I would go to him once a week or so and we'd tear it up, then I'd go crawl into bed with my husband.
In those situations, I always felt bad about it. Even now, I feel some significant guilt. It's completely different when everyone is on the same page and there are no secrets. I felt bad when I had those two guys on the side, but I felt great when I had sex with three or four guys in the same night with DH's approval (and that's not something I want to do again!! Too tiring!!).
"Infants have their infancy. And adults? Adultery."

-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"
"Infants have their infancy. And adults? Adultery."

-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"
Oooo yeah - several times. I had a great time in the 80's; then serious adulthood kicked in - or maybe I just got tired ;)
sweetmamat
Why does it matter if there are several days in between?
It doesn't change what is felt between the two of you. Or does it?
Oooh!! Ooooh!! I know!!! I know!!!
YES, it is a primitive man thing!! Actually, it's a much older instinct than that... It shows up in many, many species. It's instinct, because... well, to be VERY graphic, the last male to deposit semen in the female is the most likely to father the offspring. It's not like your husband is actually trying to make you pregnant or anything, but there is a lot of theorizing in the evolutionary biology field that the reason some men get so turned on by their wives having sex with another man is that the instinct to have sex immediately with her afterwards is so strong... it makes her that much more appealing/irresistible/screwable to him. It's exciting to the *last man* because of millions of years of evolution favoring the last man to have sex with a woman... he is the most likely to father the child.
Isn't that just FASCINATING?!?!?!? Is it like he can hardly contain himself, and he has no idea why he gets so turned on??
Gawd I love this stuff.
I'm going to put my nose back in my own business now. But I just *had* to share, in case anyone else gets as excited about this stuff as I do.
"Infants have their infancy. And adults? Adultery."

-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"
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