"Several days" dissipates the anger (I did not like the fact that I was "sharing" her).
I also have a primal objection to engaging in a sperm competition...whether it be a race to her womb or (via oral) to my tongue.
But even I am inconsistent...I would take her "soiled" by her SO's cum rather than not have access at all because of my silly "waiting period".
I admit to being old-fashioned (58). When I read THE HARROD EXPERIMENT in the 60s that college had one interesting rule about having multiple partners...only one in a menstrual cycle. That was before DNA testing for paternity. I guess I have clung to that all these years.
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ps. I won't go to Room 401 in the Best Western in the town north of my work. I've never been there, but I know that I won't go there. Too many ghosts.
I love that explanation!!! I knew I had heard something to that effect on a show once, but I couldn't quite remember the details. It makes sense even though both of them are fixed. It's the strangest thing, it's almost like he won't take no for an answer on those days even though I give him absolutely no urging, quite the opposite in fact. It makes me feel like a real heel too, but if he offered it up (when I pursue, he has performance issues)a little more often, I wouldn't need the lover.
Suppose she called you from Room 401 of the Best Western. She is emotionally distraught and says she needs you now (she gives you all her reasons and you concur). You go to the Best Western and she greets you naked and says that it's you, only you, and has always been only you that she loved. She is touching you as she talks, and has her body pressed up against yours. She begs you to make love to her right now. You are hard. Do you make love to her?
If she's promising you a future together, does that change your answer?
I thought of a different scenario. Forget the other woman and her ghosts.
You have a new love. It's a long distance relationship, like in another country and you see her only lets say once a year. She is flying into town on business and she is put in to that Best Western. Okay you figure the chances of her being given room 401 are slim. But ut oh, they have only one room available, 401. Do you make love to her?
Made me hot as hell. And I don't know why (not having a whole lot of insight or introspection or connection with feelings and what not). But the next woman I encounter is basically going to be dealing with a cave man.
See my last post #38. I meant to send it to you, not to myself.
Another follow-up question. Your new love arrives. You know she's married and still has relations with her husband. You ask her when the last time they had sex was. She tells you that he made love to her earlier, just before she got on the plane. Would you still make love to her?
If not, how many days is your necessary waiting period?
This is hyprothetical; combined with the fact I don't trust her, I think I would say "no".
But because there is still an element of shared history, and friendship, I think that I would console her. And I suppose that includes allowing her to buy time (I would eventually see whether she was sincere or not)
In post # 35 you said "I thought of a different scenario. Forget the other woman and her ghosts." so that is why youdidn't get an answer to the first supposition.
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"Several days" dissipates the anger (I did not like the fact that I was "sharing" her).
I also have a primal objection to engaging in a sperm competition...whether it be a race to her womb or (via oral) to my tongue.
But even I am inconsistent...I would take her "soiled" by her SO's cum rather than not have access at all because of my silly "waiting period".
I admit to being old-fashioned (58). When I read THE HARROD EXPERIMENT in the 60s that college had one interesting rule about having multiple partners...only one in a menstrual cycle. That was before DNA testing for paternity. I guess I have clung to that all these years.
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ps. I won't go to Room 401 in the Best Western in the town north of my work. I've never been there, but I know that I won't go there. Too many ghosts.
Suppose she called you from Room 401 of the Best Western. She is emotionally distraught and says she needs you now (she gives you all her reasons and you concur). You go to the Best Western and she greets you naked and says that it's you, only you, and has always been only you that she loved. She is touching you as she talks, and has her body pressed up against yours. She begs you to make love to her right now. You are hard. Do you make love to her?
If she's promising you a future together, does that change your answer?
I thought of a different scenario. Forget the other woman and her ghosts.
You have a new love. It's a long distance relationship, like in another country and you see her only lets say once a year. She is flying into town on business and she is put in to that Best Western. Okay you figure the chances of her being given room 401 are slim.
But ut oh, they have only one room available, 401. Do you make love to her?
Made me hot as hell. And I don't know why (not having a whole lot of insight or introspection or connection with feelings and what not). But the next woman I encounter is basically going to be dealing with a cave man.
Brilliant post, NG! :)
Yes, I make love to her.
After all, 401 is merely a number. ....398, 399, 400, 401, 402, 403.....
The series goes on. Forever.
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See my last post #38. I meant to send it to you, not to myself.
Another follow-up question. Your new love arrives. You know she's married and still has relations with her husband. You ask her when the last time they had sex was. She tells you that he made love to her earlier, just before she got on the plane. Would you still make love to her?
If not, how many days is your necessary waiting period?
This is hyprothetical; combined with the fact I don't trust her, I think I would say "no".
But because there is still an element of shared history, and friendship, I think that I would console her. And I suppose that includes allowing her to buy time (I would eventually see whether she was sincere or not)
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