This fantasy is killing me!!!

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Registered: 02-04-2005
This fantasy is killing me!!!
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 10:17pm

I have had this fantasy lately...OK, so its been a few months! :P of being part of a threesome. And it doesn't have to be me and two gals as just me and another guy pleasing one woman would be fine. Of course, no contact between me and the other guy.

Its driving me nuts as I REALLY want to do it but alas, there is a slight hold up...shes called MY WIFE! :D I tried a few times asking if there is any guy she would ever want to ask to do this with us but she looked at me with that shocked\puzzled look like I was speaking Mandarian Chinese. I told her I was serious and if she ever wanted to invite a second guy (anyone she wanted) into the bedroom I would be totally OK with it. She just kind of shook her head and left the room...

Does that mean its not going to happen? :P

Too bad my neighbors aren't good-looking and looking for a second man...

TM

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Registered: 10-20-2003
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 2:14pm
I feel your pain! I worked with a guy who told me once that he and a buddy had done a girl at the same time and that's all it took for it to become a huge fantasy of mine, me and two guys, wow! A me sandwich! Yummy. Unfortunately, I'm a thousand percent sure it will never happen. :(
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Registered: 02-03-2005
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 3:10pm
If its bothering you this much, just save up some money and hire two professionals to make your fantasy cum true on your next trip out of town. Just be sure to be safe.
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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 11:01pm

lotsa,
Yep. I know what you mean. It only takes hearing someone else mention it to get me going.

I too am 1,001 percent sure it'll never happen with me or the misses. :(

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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 11:03pm

key,

Oh, much like with "lotsa" that is a very easy way of putting my fantasy to rest too...The bad part is, its cheating.
Plus, I want my wife to experience the pleasure as well.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 8:29am

I have a question for the all men who count this among their greatest fantasies (myself included):

You probably think about this alot before and during sex with your wife, right? How about immediately after sex? Do you lose interest, if only for a little while?

By way of example, during sex with DW, I have this huge desire to engage in oral - actually, to go down on her - afterwards. We talk about it during intercourse, we giggle about it, we get that much hotter thinking about it. But! Within seconds of ejaculating, I not only lose interest, but what seemed so hot just a few moments ago has practically become a major turn-off. It's depressing, but a fact for many men: ejaculation is followed by immediate and dramatic loss of interest.

I have followed discussions in message boards catering to men who profess to be interested in "hot wives" (men who want their wives to be sexually active outside the marriage) and cuckoldry, and this seems to be a recurring problem. There are men who like to sit in a chair and watch as their spouse is "taken" by another, men who participate in threesomes with their spouse and another man, and cuckolds who sit at home and masturbate knowing that their spouse is out with another man - nearly all of these men have learned the hard way that they must avoid orgasm at any cost, becuase once they 'come', the entire scenario changes.

The guy who was sitting in the chair getting hot while watching his wife and another guy suddenly gets upset and has to leave the room because he can't watch any longer. Sometimes he even demands that the other guy stop what he is doing and leave the house NOW!

The guy doing a threesome with his wife and another comes too soon and now can no longer bear the thought of what is playing out alongside him on the bed. The cuckold sitting home alone is (believe it or not) wildly excited by the thoughts running through his head as to what his wife may be doing with her lover; but if our friend the cuckold plays with himself just a bit too much and orgasms, that "wild excitement" soon changes into fear and dismay as he wonders where is she, when is she coming home??

In my opinion, this is the single greatest tool men have available to them when it comes to deciding whether they really could handle any sort of open marriage arrangement: Can you maintain the same level of interest *after* an orgasm as you had before your orgasm?

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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 10:58am
I have this same fantasy. I love watching my wife give me head. The idea popped into my head of how awesome it would be to watch her give head while Im screwing her. I brought it up once and she asked who I had in mind. That was the problem. I dont have anyone in mind. I just picture the act not real people. I told her that I have no idea. It ended there but man what a powerfull erotic fantasy!! Just thinking about it gets my blood boiling.
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Sat, 05-06-2006 - 12:45pm

"In my opinion, this is the single greatest tool men have available to them when it comes to deciding whether they really could handle any sort of open marriage arrangement: Can you maintain the same level of interest *after* an orgasm as you had before your orgasm?"


Jackson, that's a very interesting point!

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 05-06-2006 - 2:05pm
Well, I'll tell you, I am pretty much up for anything...except extra people in the bedroom. It's just not for me. So I don't think it's something that EVERY person, or even most people, have experienced.
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Sun, 05-07-2006 - 12:14am

justiceand truth,

I think MOST women think along those lines aside from the ones that hang out here. And theres nothing wrong with that...Its just that male fantasy that some of us guys would just like to experience once....Maybe we all watch too much porn or read too many posts here.

Just for example however the DW and I drive by a stripclub tonight and I saw a couple (M&F) going in. I joked that THEY were going in and I got the nastiest look ever. Once again, something that most females probably don't do but still a guy'd fantasy.

BTW, I like the guinea pig avatar! Very cute.

TM

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Sun, 05-07-2006 - 1:46am

I think Jackson and Maggie raise two very interesting perspectives. From Jackson's perspective I feel he raises the point of what happens if the three some if forced, rushed, or one is taking it for the team. Also I think his post also demonstrates the type of guy you are likely to encounter if you rush into it without taking the time to select the third, together. However I think Jackson has presented a very glossy overview of it by not focusing on all of the drama that could occur afterwards. Plus I feel Jackson's post demonstrates why the two of you must work together on selecting the third and not just take any "dead fish from the water".

From reading the thread I get the strong feeling that you are trying to pressure your wife into this. Having done mfm before with my DH it is the absolute worst thing you can do is pressure here. The reason being threesomes do bring up a cornacopia of emotions for all involved and if there is something to fuel a conflict, like the feeling of being manipulated, that feeling does find a way to make itself known during the encounter. Someone who feels forced into it comes across in many different ways from drama during the encounter to the thrid not wanting to play because they sense some type of conflict between the two of you and / or if you hook up with a relationship wrecker your DW being more receptive to their advances.

On the other hand Maggie demonstrates how a threesome encounter should be done. Like us, she shows that it has to come from within the relationship and not by force it can have a postivie impact on the relationship.

There must exist a bond, communication, and trust between the two of you for something like this to work. From reading your postings I do not see that happening. The question for you, are you willing to destroy your relationslhip over making a fantasy come true?