Figured I would check it out

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Registered: 05-19-2006
Figured I would check it out
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 2:13pm

Well I have been searching for a decent message board where sex is discussed, and ran across this place, figured I would try it out. I might not fit here, I don't find much that is taboo regarding sex. I have one thing, I know I wont' try and that is scat..but everything else, pretty much up for, and have probably done. I am happily married bisexual woman. I share women with my husband, he shares men with me. My list of kinks is longer that what is probably normally. I am very sexual. If not having sex, probably masturbating..really into porn, and I think everyone should enjoy it. So will see what this board has to offer.

kinkybigirl

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 4:07pm
yes I have talked about what I want from him several times. In my theraphy sessions I discuss his responses and what I can do next. prob is, I don't want to be teaching him everything! it can spoil the mood and frankly I don't think that I should. I've had amazing lovers in the past who knew exactly when and how to touch me and it was incredible. it's not often that you meet a guy who has pure instinct about a woman. but I'm just so bored and tired of having to "help" BF. I've given him books to read as well. We've watched a film called The Secrets of the G Spot by the --- institute, and he was laughing b/c the ppl weren't super models. he owns porn and I suppose he thinks THAT is what women want..hello??? sure some of it can be fun but porn is made by men for men, not for the woman's pleasure.
at this point, I fantasize about OM when we are together to keep me wet. it's so sad. and I'm basically screwed.
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 4:13pm

I think you need to ask yourself if you can handle being in the relationship with being unhappy in the area of sex. Will it last? Can you see yourself five years from now still with him, with the way things are now?

I do have to disagree about porn...but I am not your typical woman. I have to laugh when I see porn made for women..lol..what is that about? But most porn, is still too tame for me.

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Registered: 04-21-2006
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 6:52pm
Honestly sooner or later something has got to give. I am trying to be helpful because he is a great guy. But you're right. I've been pondering how long our relationship will last for a while now. Mostly because I don't see us getting more intimate and instead I feel getting further and further away. That's why OM fits into my life right now. He is a fantasy, and I've gotten a taste of him. Just the fact that he can write like that to me, so extremely sexual and sensual, so provocative, so naughty, he can be forceful and he can be soft..all with words! I just keep imagining what would happen if we ever got a hold of each other. Seriously, I would eat him. lol.
This whole thing gets worse because Summer is right around the corner and for some reason I get the Summer Itch, every summer, and want to be single. I want to hook up, have crazy sex with men and women (I want to go further in my short lived experimentation). I want to go to a Bondage Bar, I want to be DP'ed, and just have some fun. Experience what I haven't before 'serious relationship'.
Maybe soon I'll be ready to talk to BF about all this, though it won't be easy...
M-S
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Fri, 05-19-2006 - 7:15pm

Well, come on down and visit us at the BI board too!! Click my sig and you'll go there... it's a magical mystery tour without all the hair.

(Beatles moment)

Sorry- having a busy moment. Glad to see you around here, and I hope we get some chances to chat!


"In Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud argued that civilization is founded on the repression of instincts. It now seems clear that one of those instincts leads us away from monogamy. Whether we choose to follow, on the other hand, is up to us."
-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"

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