Give him a hand

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 11:38am

Has anyone read that up there? Manual sex secrets? If so, what did you think? And GUYS - what about you? Comments, suggestions, etc.

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 11:53am
Excellent advice. There was stuff in there I haven't even tried on myself . . . yet. ;)
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 11:58am
I think it's a great article. I did read it and have tried most of it with great results and a happy man! :) I have never tried a scarf or beads, though. That might be on the tap for this weekend!
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Registered: 11-30-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:14pm

Mr. krazykatie here. She asked me to look at the article and give you a man's perspective. I guess I am in the minority so far. I thought most of the advice was fairly basic (except the finger, which is not everyone's cup of tea). Here are my pointers, in case anyone cares.

1. Bring Attitude In Addition To Game.

Creative physical stimulation is important, but a fun and interested attitude is more important. No one wants to be on the receiving end of a sex act from a partner who behaves like they are just going through the motions. This is particularly true with men and hand jobs. The key is to make him think that it is as fun and exciting for you as it is for him.

2. Talk May Be Cheep, But Here It Can Be Priceless.

In addition to connecting physically, you must also connect mentally with your partner. Since we are not a mindreading race, you will have to talk. You can stroke his ego (in addition to his member) by telling him how big and hard he is or how good he feels in your hands. You can emphasize your excitement by telling him how much you want to see him release. You can titillate him by suggesting a fantasy that you know will excite him. Whatever your approach, remember pointer number 1, make it fun and exciting.

3. Indulge His Fantasies.

As a follow on to pointer number 2, one of the best discussion topics is a fantasy of his. Don't bring it up immediately. But after you have him on a slow burn, use the fantasy to turn up the heat. The more descriptive your use of words to paint a picture in his mind, the better. Consider describing what it might look like to you to see him penetrate his fantasy object while mimicking the action with your hands. Keep it slow and tight. There is nothing like the simulation of entering a hot, tight, wet you know what to get a guy off.

4. Prostrate Play.

His prostrate can be felt by applying pressure to the skin between the base of his testicals and his anus. Gentle manual stimulation of this area, by applying pressure with the tips of your fingers, can be very exciting. Too much can be a bad thing and it is most enjoyable as he is approaching orgasm and during orgasm. Indeed, press him here during his orgasm, and you can feel the spasms resulting in the ejaculation. It can rock your world as well as his. This is a cousin to giving him the finger (which is actually stimulating his prostrate more directly). It gets something close to the same results without some of the mess, etc.

5. Don't Stop Too Soon--Move Lower And Grab On Tighter.

Nature has constructed man to automatically push deeper and harder during orgasm. This is accomplished by highly sensitizing the area around the head of his penis and making more pleasureable stimulation near the base--the tighter feeling, the better. So while you want to focus on the head for a good deal of the time, once the orgasm starts, it is better to move lower, faster and tighter. Some women tend to stop at the sight of the first spirt. This is a big no, no. The time to finish the stimulation is five or sex seconds after the very last spasm. This is no time to stop talking either. Save the dirtiest, nastiest comments for the end to send him over the top with a bang!

6. Be Sensitive After The Act.

Society has made us all a little ashamed of manual stimulation. Statements like "ewe" or "yuck" are never appreciated. Don't worry about the mess made by the combination of lubricant and sperm. If you have to keep the sheets clean, come prepared with a towel under him and one "handy" to clean up. But don't make a big show of cleaning up.

For what it is worth, those are my two cents. Have fun ladies.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:25pm
Wow! Very well said! Thank you for joining in and sharing ideas with us!
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Registered: 09-25-2003
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:32pm
Wow Mr Krazykatie! I certainly hope this is written from experience (the positive aspects that is! The perfect augmentation to the original article for certain. Now it is complete!
My dw indulges in a HJ about once a month...supplants her aversion to oral. The only area where she is diligent is in form. It feels way better than my own touch for certain. All other areas are in need of much work though. My mind needs to totally take over to add the necessary ingredients to her handywork for the forthcoming 'ewww'. So this is my personal fantasy time combined with an expert stroke...sort of like how I envision a happy ending in a massage parlor...mechanical + fantasy.
If I got a HJ as described here by this post...forgetaboutit! Yee Haw!
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Registered: 06-23-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 1:55pm
Welcome to the board! AND thanks for your two cents!!!

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 11-30-2005
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 5:05pm
bayoumomof2: Your very welcome. It is nice to be appreciated.
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Thu, 08-24-2006 - 10:16pm

No, I didn't read it.

 


 


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Fri, 08-25-2006 - 10:57am
I like the suggestions in the article, especially changing up the pace to string the guy out. A drawn-out HJ can be one of the most intense pleasures a guy can get, if you play him right. And the prostate massage added in will send most guys into orbit. If you're feeling adventurous, see how long you can keep your guy on the edge before you either have mercy on him or he jumps up and attacks you. Should be fun either way, right?
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Registered: 03-16-2005
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 3:09pm
Interesting - and I wish DW would read and follow the article. Many moon ago, I had a gf who during sex would reach around and insert her finger in my butt. Unbelieveable wonderful feeling! Can not bring myself to "ask" DW to do this. GF was 25 years ago, but DW is not the agressive type or likes too many suggestions. I had asked her to find my g-spot, but I might have well been talking to the wall. I wish DW would try some new things. Over the past year and a half I have given DW some toys and she enjoys them, so at some point I will suggest finding my g-spot again. Overall the article is very good in my opinion!

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