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A guy's first time
| Wed, 04-12-2006 - 8:37am |
One of the two girls I live with has a cute cousin who just turned 18 and has never had sex with a girl. I've met him a few times and he's very shy, but he's a straight A student and he's really nice. Anyway my girlfriend wants to set him up for his first experience. I'm bi but I agreed to be his first. My gf says he's likes me a lot but I haven't seen him in a while and I'm four months pregnant so he hasn't seen me since I started to show. He knows I'm pregnant but he doesn't know that I've agreed to have sex with him. He's coming over Friday night for a little party and I'd like to make it special for him but I'm kind of nervous about it.

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Hi, jengurl.
I would also suggest making him comfortable and let him know everything is ok. My first time was with a more experinced girl and I came just from her putting on the condom. She let me know it was ok, pulled it off, cleaned me off with a hand towel then continued to play with me until I was hard again. She put another condom on and then I was able to really enjoy my first time.
Hope it helps.
In his mind, is he just coming to a party, or does he know something about the purpose
Yeah, I was kind of wondering the same thing.
Edited 4/13/2006 4:08 am ET by argy_bargy
Some of the other posters have made some very valid points. I have to agree with them. Is this something that your girlfriend knows he wants? Or something she wants for him? He might not be ready - after all, he is only 18. I think that it's something you or your girlfriend need to talk to him about first, to see if he wants to do this. I think that just springing it on him might be a bad idea. Just because he likes you doesn't necessarily mean that he wants to lose his virginity to you.
If it's something he wants, then go for it! If all goes well it will give him a boost of confidence. Take your time with it - don't just make it good for him, show him how to make it good for you, that might help his confidence, and make him more comfortable. If he starts to seem too nervous, back off a little for a while. Make it fun, rather than serious. Take control of the situation and put the condom on him so he doesn't end up fumbling around with it and make himself more nervous. Take the top so he can relax a bit more. Slide him into you and then sit there for a few seconds so he can settle a bit. Then take things slowly (again). Be aware he might not last long, and if he doesn't, reassure him that it's ok.
Good luck
Jan
You're saying the others will leave so you two can be alone. Don't set this up so he's backed into a corner from peer pressure into doing this. Not any more reasonable for a guy than a girl on this one.
If he decides to go through with it, realize that (a) he's going to be incredibly nervous and (b) very likely incredibly short-fused. You'll have to be patient and expect that he's probably going to pop (at least once) before you take him. You may want to have him get you off first before you even get him ready because he probably won't last long in you.
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