This happened to me; your advice ladies?

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This happened to me; your advice ladies?
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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:26pm
So, for three years from time to time I take my children to the dentist (my wife takes them the other times). The receptionist (in her twenties, I'm in my forties) makes small talk with me while keeping eye contact. Twice before she told me "you look good," with locked on eye contact, and she did it again a month ago. I used the quotation marks for a reason, it wasn't: oh, I like your shirt today! So, I'm sensing a strong vibe; despite the fact that she knows that I'm married. Then while in a horny mood I made an appointment for my children (by phone) and said to her: "we should have lunch some time."
"Absolutely" was her reply. So, I'm not good at reading women and my question is: what's up ladies! Do you think she wants more than "lunch?" Oh, I asked her what was the best number to reach her at, and she said work. All I know is her name and she's not in the phone book, I get the impression that she may live at home. Lastly, I forgot to tell DW about all this. Thoughts?

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Registered: 11-29-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:33pm
I am not a lady, but are you sure that you "forgot" to tell your wife. Make sure that you know what you are getting into and be aware and read to suffer and consequences.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 1:46pm
my thoughts?? you didn't "forget" to tell your wife anything, you remebered to tell us after all.....come on, be honest.


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Registered: 04-06-2006
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 2:08pm

Congratulations Dan, nice catch, but you probably ought to throw this one back. I have had thoughts about seeing what I could get away with when I suspect a pretty young thing is flirting with me, but I don't follow through because I'd sort of end up like a dog chasing cars who finally caught one...it's fun to wonder, but for me the risk vs benefit ratio never adds up in my favour.

Maybe there is an inverse to this: she is on a board somewhere saying, "there is this older, handsome, married guy who always flirts with me when he brings his kids for their dental appointments. One day he suggested we have lunch and before I knew what I was saying I agreed that we should. Now what do I do?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 3:00pm
I am going to agree with caroline here. Any bolstering I experience in my real life is strictly from the flirtatious dances that occur. The glances, smiles, flirty talk. That alone seems to give me that little 'shot' I need now and then. Acting on it carries way too much risk for my liking.
And for the rest of us...let's not forget that there are a lot of things we 'forget' to tell our spouses...;^)
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 3:21pm
Oh, FINE...lay the guilt trip on the poor Catholic boy! Two things are a bit distressing:
First is that Caroline knows what I look like (have we met)? Really? The second is how she (the receptionist) feels about the guy who always comes in and flirts with HER. I have never thought of it that way. Hmmmm... Well, I don't do it consciously, but I will admit to being generally flirtatious. Now, just see if I tell you all what happens! Ha!
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 3:30pm
Well gang. Sometime sage advise is hard to take.. Ive allways said learn or you will burn!!!!! Hdog
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 3:06pm

Knowing that she said yes when you asked her to lunch - was that enough to satisfy your curiosity and give you the ego boost you were looking for?

 

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:53pm
All:
Very valid points and sage wisdom that gives me pause. I'm glad I left the lunch thing very open ended. I'll keep you posted. ~Dan
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-03-2006 - 2:05pm

We all understand temptation.

 

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:22am
Great post!!!

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