Hot Girl at Work

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Hot Girl at Work
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 3:31pm

OK, so here goes.  I posted this in the body of a message a while back, and I don't think it really got seen (didn't get a response), and so I thought I'd start a thread on the topic and see if I could get some advice.

There is a really hot girl here at work.  Smokin' hot.  And, she wears all of the things that get my motor running - short skirts, killer heels, etc.  Obviously, she gets me worked up at times.  There are plenty of nights where we are the last two in the office, and I've often wondered/fantasized what it might be like to "get" with her.  Now before anyone get's all excited and tells me not to do this from a "work" perspective, I get that, and it's something I'm weighing.  At the same time, that's not what this post is about.

What I'm really curious of is, if I decided to make a move (after weighing the aforementioned item), what would be the best way to do it?  I've never been very good at hitting on girls.  I've also heard of plenty of workplace affairs.  So, in short, what's the best way to make something like this happen?  Does it start with a conversation?  No conversation, and just physical advance?  Put myself in certain (figurative) positions?  Any input you could provide would be appreciated!

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 3:37pm

Start with conversation.  See if she has any interest.  Just because a person dresses hot does not mean that they are sexually available to you or anyone else.  In my experience, it has been the conservative dressers who were much more likely to be sexual than the "hot" dressers.

chaika

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 3:39pm

A "general" conversation or a more suggestive/direct conversation?

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: xxxs
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 4:32pm

General conversations with open ended questions about herself.

chaika

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 9:58pm

Matt-

Hi. How much have you spoken with her? If you have  said little more than hi, start with a general conversation getting to know each other like you would with other less sexy (and/or male) colleagues. See if she is friendly and if you have much in common. Start by just trying to be friends with her first.

If and when you become friends with her, then you can drop hints and see how she responds. Since this is work, you absolutely do not want to be too aggressive.

Good luck.

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Registered: 08-07-2011
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 10:07pm
This is probably not the hot answer most people are looking for but funny guys always turn me on. Witty funny not like stand up funny. A funny, witty comment here are there will almost always get good attention. If you're just plain not funny, well - crap I dunno lol
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Registered: 05-29-2012
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 9:30pm
Just remember three words and make sure they don't bite you on the A**:
"Sexual Harassment Suit"
You could loose your job and money.
Some ladies will dress like that just to get grounds for a harassment suit. Remember, even if they dress like that and come on to you, they can say, "I don't know why he thought I wanted him to hit on me"
Best to go home and fantasize about her.