How do you get past being upset w/DH/SO?

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How do you get past being upset w/DH/SO?
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 7:52pm

And get back into a sexy mood? I love sex and can't get enough of it, but when we're fighting and/or not connecting emotionally the LAST thing I want is him touching me. How do I get past that? I used to try to hide it and just close my eyes and let him have his way and hope it would hurry up. I don't think that helped either of us, though.

Any advice? lol

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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 8:13pm
Oh no, that won't work....for me, I need time alone to process everything, and then I need to talk.........and talk a lot.


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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 8:48pm
I'm sorry to hear that LM... I'm having issues right now that are really driving me crazy. I have a major problem opening up to DH because of past issues with us and he gets pissed at me and tries to force me to tell him everything that is bothering me. It does nothing but make me more upset.
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:04pm
that's why you need space....you need to think things through, write them down, and then you can talk.


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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:34pm

I do need space... he won't give it to me, though. If I am upset he follows me all around the house demanding to know what's going on. I can't write things down because he gives me no privacy. I can't write online... he'll find it, he has in the past. I'm scared to write on paper for that very reason.

I am not a pisces... I am a libra.

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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:41pm
I ask for a spanking. Sorry. I know that's not helpful, but that's what I like.
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Registered: 06-23-2006
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:44pm

Well I require space and time. I'm the type of person that needs too, well, stew about it for a while...... My DH is the type to try

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 03-17-2006
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:58pm
I agree with the space. If I can't get it at home then I climb into my truck, roll the windows down and find a country road to travel down to think about things.
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Registered: 06-23-2006
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 10:03pm
Yeah, or I go for a nice long walk to clear my head. Something about being alone with one's thoughts.....

 

 

 

 

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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 10:07pm
Yeah I think I might be going for a drive tonight! Not because I'm upset but I think I might head to Tulsa and get my bike.
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Fri, 06-23-2006 - 10:32pm
Road trip -- sounds like fun!

 

 

 

 

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