How fast is a woman supposed to cum!

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Registered: 12-31-1969
How fast is a woman supposed to cum!
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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 7:00pm

My BF and I grew so close mentally from the start and we took it to next level pretty quick because neither of us could wait. We have been both married before and divorced. We both want a new life and want to make it work. He is a wonderful person and I am a good girl too. 

This is not about an issue, but what I want to do here is confirm or assert my feelings with someone else who could have felt the same. We have had sex couple of times now, but its been like 3 weeks since we know each other. I loved it when he kissed me the first time and I know we both are in the same wavelength for mental connection. It is great. He likes me a lot and I too like him for what he is!

When we have had sex so far, I have not come completely. I donno why I am not able to let myself lose when he does it, so I have not experienced a complete orgasm yet with him. He gets it, but me on the other hand, I am wet and love it when he kisses me. Is it normal for a girl to take time with a new partner to have a complete orgasm? I sometimes feel he makes love a bit quick- you know not very slow or sensuous. He is very passionate about having sex. While I am a passionate lover myself, I feel his passion overrides mine. Is this causing trouble and I take more time to come? Has anyone felt this before? More than this, I have to also tell that we both are still new  to each other and this phase is all about talking from our past marriages, and sharing our stories. I am heartbroken as to how his ex has cheated him, I heard all that last night and I was too shaken. Then he made love, we had sex, while I enjoyed it I could not come completely.  I tried to have orgasm later but could not come. He asked me why. I told him I usually take time to get familiar with my partner and only then I can have a good orgasm. 

I want to feel more closer to him and I know I can if I can mastrubate 100% letting myself free. Anyone- anything to say to boost my confidence? Thanks in advance.

 

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Registered: 11-18-2011
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 12:27pm
40 days and 40 nights??
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Registered: 08-07-2011
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 10:30pm
Wait wait wait HOLDDDDDD the phone.

Please hear me when I tell you this.

If you had an ORGASM you would knowwwwwwww it. You just would, you have to just take my word on that one.

Now this is ONLY an opinion but for me, sexual chemistry is either there or it's not. A guy (like my BF right now) who is someone that really turns me on can bring me to orgasm in a minute flat - where I've been with other guys for years and never really "gotten there"

It really feels to me like you're trying too hard and it's become more of a issue of anxiety and expectations than what it's supposed to be - simple, wonderful RELEASE.
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Registered: 05-23-2013
Mon, 06-03-2013 - 2:28pm
Everyone is different. Some women can achieve orgasm in 60 seconds, others, 60 minutes. Have you tired having him go down on your till you cum, then having sex? That works especially well for a man who might not be able to last very long while having intercourse. :)