How often will a man decline a BJ????

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How often will a man decline a BJ????
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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 1:52pm

I love to give head, adore it and have to BEG the bf to let me do this to him! In the past I never had a man turn that down and at the beginning of our relationship (we have hit 18 months) the bf LOVED it. He admits that it's not an easy way for him to cum, that normally he is a hand job type of guy, but now he is even refusing that. His work has been super stressful so he is tired and generally not in the mood when he gets home. How much does work and mental state factor into laying back while you get sucked off?!?!?!?

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 2:55pm

         Aloha, I don't know.  In Economics there is the idea of declining marginal utility.  This means that after some point the more someone gets of something the less she/he wants it.

        Tom,

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Registered: 08-07-2011
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 10:09pm

I have this same problem. I love it, my husband isn't interested. My solution was to find a guy who is, ha! :smileyhappy: He loves it and I love giving it so game, set, match.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 10:32am

Ok ladies, there is something wrong here. I love getting BJs..I never, ever turn down a BJ because I never know when she will offer to give me another one.

 

Maybe he is feeling guity, maybe he is getting a BJ from someone else.

 

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Registered: 08-28-1998
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:02am
Turning down BJ's.....that's crazy talk
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Registered: 08-22-2011
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 10:48am

I can't imagine ever turning one down...it is something that my wife never offers up and when I ask it is usually a one or two minute tease...just once in life I would like a fantastic one...just once. :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Mon, 08-06-2012 - 3:39pm
Same here! Love it, but DW isn't all that interested! Ugh! If there's a woman out there who feels a need to get that out of your system, just let me know. :smileywink:
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Registered: 04-17-2001
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 7:58pm

Uh never...DW never does them so I will never turn one down

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Registered: 05-29-2012
Tue, 08-07-2012 - 9:15pm
Ok I think there is a consensus here by the men...the boy needs therapy or is getting something somewhere else...
I don't know unless that's all the action he gets from you. I love a good BJ (never heard of a bad one) but I do enjoy my oral on my SO and the straight sex. Maybe he wants a little variety. You said he wanted hand jobs best? You or him doing the "work"? Could be he's just weird because what guy in his right mind would turn down a BJ for a HJ?
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Registered: 11-18-2011
Wed, 08-22-2012 - 1:37pm
Men!!!

I mean....wow!!!! Never...never...never decline a BJ....
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Registered: 06-10-2012
Wed, 08-29-2012 - 11:02am

Maybe he's like mine! My DH (who normally has a fairly HL unless he's having a tough time at work) never lets me give him a BJ unless (a) AF is visiting and we can't have sex or (b) it's part of foreplay before actual sex, and he enjoys it A LOT in both cases! I have to add, too, that I give amazing blowjobs, which he admits himself. Thing is, DH is the hopeless romantic, do-it-slow type of guy. He hates being on the receiving end without being able to give back, and is actually an incredibly considerate lover. Look at the bright side: maybe you found one of those :smileywink:

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