how to rock his world

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Registered: 01-26-2004
how to rock his world
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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 3:51pm
I just had sex today with someone new who is into much more stuff than I have been into (fisting, anal - his and mine and lite bondage). He focused on me most of the time. I had many orgasms and he had only one (tried for another but ran out of time) and I feel so unexperienced compared to him! I feel like all I did was take and take and take. Is this just what he is into or is there something I can do to totally knock his socks off? He said he wanted to massage me next time but I want to make him as happy as he made me and focus on him. Any ideas? I feel like anything I know how to do is NOT nearly as exciting as the things he has done. Today totally rocked - but I want him to be as satisfied as me. He did not complain once and has mentioned the next time we will be together. Is it possible that he gets off on pleasing me or can I do something exciting for him? I wish I could talk to him about it more but he has the attitude "what you see is what you get" and told me I should be the same way. It is hard though! I feel so inexperienced compared to him (in terms of experimentation). What can I do? I want to "wow" him as much as he has "wowed" me. The relationship is "taboo" enough to make it too hard to have a discussion with him about it. I have to figure this one out on my own.
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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 5:59pm
It sounds to me like he does just really enjoy pleasing a woman. I think you enjoying what he's doing for you is all the "excitement" he wants. As adventurous as he is, my guess is, he will have no trouble asking you for or guiding you to what he wants from you. My advice is, enjoy it, and be happy! It looks like he has a lot to teach you, and that's probably what he gets off on.
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Registered: 09-16-2003
Tue, 01-27-2004 - 7:36pm

Hi!


Well...it sounds like you had great sex....but it also sounds like what it ends up making you feel is inadequate.



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Tue, 01-27-2004 - 10:10pm

He sounds like my DH, who is very into pleasing ME! You can make sure to moan and groan and let him know you are LOVING every moment he's devoting to you.


As far as what you can do to return the favor, I like to read up on blow jobs and try to perfect that particular skill, lol. DH has never complained =). You mentioned he was into bondage, so maybe he'd be interested in being the one tied down sometime.

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Wed, 01-28-2004 - 5:24am
Thank you all for the replies. I will relax and just enjoy. I want him so much TODAY even though I am still tired and sore from yesterday.

littlemascara - you suggested I ask <<"what can I do to make you feel as good as I do??" The answer might be he likes to hold the reigns, so to speak.>>

I will ask and let him hold the reigns if that is what he wants. I sure love it when he does. I wish we could talk more opennly about this but this is more like a "friends with benefits" relationship and we both are into exploring eachother but not into the relationship part (long story). I will let go and not make this a competition about who can do it better. We started this because we talked so opennly about sex and both became very curious about eachother and both felt the need to have sex just for the pure physical pleasure of it. It may be harder to do that than I thought!

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 1:42am
I can relate to the whole "friends w/ benefits" thing. Its way hard to do. I am sort of "involved" with this guy, yes, a sex only relationship, well, we're friends too, but as far as a relationship goes, its not realistic for us. I do have problems seperating my feelings out and its rough! He is genuinely caring and lovey-dovey towards me when we are together...that's what I've been searching for, but more in a relationship sense, so when I come home from his place or when he lives mine, its like there's a big whole there. I love having sex with him and I am ok with it, but sometimes I do wonder.

Just be incredibly careful and don't let your heart get too involved, it DOES have a mind of its own.

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 1:56am
You are so right Crazyindiana! I do feel a hole when he is gone - but only for awhile. He is so attentive to me when we are together and having sex. It is awesome. Having this "FWB" relationship is really helping me explore a side of me that I have let go for way too long - the experimental, wilder side. BUT, as a woman, I do find myself hoping he is thinking about the sex we had when we are not together. He is so giving that I do want to knock his socks off - or at least make him cum as hard as he has made me! We have only had intercourse once (oral several times before) and although he came one time we didn't have enough time for him to come the second time (we are in our late 30's - round 2 isn't as easy for all guys!) I want so much to pick up where we left off with some really awesome move that will make him explode!
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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 9:43am
Definitely tread lightly....mt FWB turned into my Dh almost 12 years ago!! LOL


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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 2:42am
LOL, depends on how freaky he is ;)
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Sat, 01-31-2004 - 4:53am
I'm finding out - he IS pretty freaky! He is into bondage, fisting... anal play with me AND with him - and now wants to use ice inside me before entering. He is NOT into quickies - we had time for a quickie and he said he only would do it when we had plenty of time. He is very into control (No, nothing non-consentual or hurtful). Any ideas? extreme or not - I want to know! He also seems to read a lot and I want to know where he gets his ideas!

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Sat, 01-31-2004 - 2:30pm
ice inside is nice. it is a crazzzzzy sensation i just love. my exBF used a popsicle as a ......ya know....once.

I will get back to you with some other ideas, but I have to run for now.

lata