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Registered: 05-09-2004
I want your opinions; or rather need.
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Mon, 08-07-2006 - 2:52pm

One of my lovers asked me how he could access iVillage. It's a large site, so if left to his own devices he might never stumble across things that I posted. I know I don't mind him seeing what I've posted, I may even want him to see it. But for some reason I am hesitant of just straight forwardly directing him to the sites I frequent.

What do you guys think? Would you want to read all about your lover, or would you like to learn about him or her on your own gradually? Will it take the fun out of a new relationship to have all the cards laid on the table up front? Or does it get the business out of the way and make way for the fun times?

Anyone, have an opinion?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:01pm
Given that this is the only place I have met any lovers in the past year and a half I have no problem with any of them reading about me here.
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Registered: 05-09-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:10pm

That makes sense. However it doesn't answer any part of my question. Put yourself in my shoes, what would you do?

How nice is it by you today? It's perfect weather here. And wireless enables me to stay connected while basking in the sun. Only wish I was at the shore like Deja has been.

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:13pm

I would guide him here.

It's cloudy here. More sun and very humid when I was outside for lunch.

FYI-My family is at the shore today-NJ.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:17pm

ooooooooooo, you're all alone. Is it a case of when the cat's away the mouse will play?

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Registered: 05-15-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:20pm
Hey I tried. CF is home today (and for the next two weeks)-but so was her husband-holiday in Canada. So I actually left for the office before my family left for the shore.
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Registered: 09-02-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:32pm

Morse, whether he reads the words you wrote, and hears them from your mouth, it is YOU he is hearing from. Written or oral, it is coming your your heart and mind. If you aren't reticent to have him read anythign you've written, then I would direct him here and let him find out on his own.

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 3:47pm

Yeah, my friend up there left me a text message about the holiday, but I haven't a clue as to what the holiday is. Do you?

I am planning on playing tomorrow. I have a tentative date for lunch tomorrow. I hope I didn't scare him off with the little Laura Corn e-card and iTease I sent him this morning. They were incredible hot!

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 4:14pm
Huh, good question Morse. Given what I have experienced in my life, if I were to have the chance of having another lover in my real life, I would almost hope it was something that came out of Taboos. Life is short, tomorrow is not a gimme. Let's just attack it day to day with the full knowledge of who the other person is. The old fashion notion of discovery has not worked all that well for me. Let her see the hand and decide if she wants to play it or not is my vote for the future. Especially with something that seems so hard to handle...sex. Let the rest be some element of discovery...that is easier.
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Registered: 06-23-2006
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 4:34pm

What do you guys think? Well, is what you have to loose greater than what you have to gain?


Would you want to read all about your lover, or would you like to learn about him or her on your own gradually? Perhaps a little of both would be more exciting.


Will it take the fun out of a new relationship to have all the cards laid on the table up front? I'd say no b/c I doubt all of the cards would ever be laid out on the table up front.


Or does it get the business out of the way and make way for the fun times? That I cannot answer.

 

 

 

 

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Mon, 08-07-2006 - 4:57pm
I think that in this case you're especially correct. It's mostly about the sex.

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