I Would Have Done A Threesome Years Ago

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I Would Have Done A Threesome Years Ago
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 11:01pm

I am older but forget it. That is a number only. The other day I saw a survey somewhere on the village of asking women if they would like or have a lesbian affair meaning in a threesome which to me is the meaning of an affair.

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 5:17pm

Hi,

Just wanted to say hello and give you a "strange" thank you, for not lambasting me for my comments this morning. And for planting another issue in my head. I have been so busy defending myself today I completely overlooked issue. "Thank you!"

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 5:24pm

Morse, I think I'm probably the queen of the psycho girls around here.

 

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:12pm

Morse, I know you've been beaten over the head for your comments already. I need to say something though because I think you completely missed the point of the sexy curvaceous pin-up girls in our sigs.

Sexy is a state of mind. The girls reflect a state of mind. It's glamorous, it's fiction, it's fun, it's pretty. It's not that we accept that skinny young bodies with big boobs are the only attractive ones. It's just a playful representation of how we feel. One would think that professional psychologists and those who work in the field would leap to that assumption before assuming that it is a sign of poor self-image. That's a dangerous and hurtful assumption to make.

"Unfortunately, on these boards it is particularly sad that many woman are hiding behind such siggies. So many of the woman here have openly discussed psychiatric issues that they are struggling with. I think the use of siggies with such glamor gals is particularly harmful for them and their self esteem."

To suggest that we are "hiding" behind our signatures is not acceptable. I and others on the board have been diagnosed with mental disorders. Many of us are on meds, many of us on more than one. Instead of hiding it like some shameful thing, we're open about it, and not because we're wearing it as some badge of victimhood (or a "help me, I'm a weak woman" thought). And it's not the topic of discussion on this board anyway. It's an aside, a "by the way" sort of thing. It is shared because there is some level of openness and trust (that will hopefully not subside after your comments). We're not irrational people who are harming ourselves by striving in vain to meet unnatural standards, thus feeding our mental illness. That, too, is a dangerous, inaccurate, and hurtful thing to say.

I don't judge myself or others harshly for being young, old, saggy, taught, skinny, fat, warty, smelly, flatulent (probably goes with smelly), straight, gay, bi, monogamous, nonmonogamous, male, female, hermaphroditic to any extent, blonde, red-headed, brunette, white-haired, bald, or for having severe acne scars (there are countless other qualities upon which I don't base my judgment). Sexy is a state of mind, and my judgment is based on quality of character. THAT is sexy. And I won't judge someone harshly if they do look like they belong in a magazine. And if I see a pin-up pic that features a woman that I think is lovely and I use that image to show how sexy and gorgeous I feel, THAT is NOT an unhealthy thing.

>putting soapbox back under the bed<

At the end of the day, I definitely value your insights and comments here (remember when you smacked me around with the genetics thing? I needed it!). Although I'm quite offended at the things you said here, I know that I've said and done some stupid and offensive things here too. Bygones become bygones, and in a month I won't remember anything about this.


"In Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud argued that civilization is founded on the repression of instincts. It now seems clear that one of those instincts leads us away from monogamy. Whether we choose to follow, on the other hand, is up to us."
-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"




Edited 6/17/2006 6:19 pm ET by naughtygirl23

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:23pm
Jazz....you could be describing me, "I've attempted suicide, been hospitalized for depression and bipolar disorder, and I see a psychiatrist almost weekly.


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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:29pm

>>>Isn't it sad that you couldn't find a woman of your own body type to display. <<<


It's not sad, because I wasn't looking for a body type like my own.


>>>You're a bright young woman, do you honestly not see how in general societal terms the use of such "perfect" woman is detrimental to the general self-esteem of woman? And specifically on these boards more woman would be using self portraits if they were more confident about their bodies.<<<


No I don't.

 


 


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Registered: 10-14-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:50pm

No, Caroline. I commented on morsegal's comments about how women with pin-up girls in their sigs have low self-esteem.

No age group is immune from making off-base comments, and morse said some offensive things. I wasn't commenting on your post at all. :-)


"In Civilization and Its Discontents, Freud argued that civilization is founded on the repression of instincts. It now seems clear that one of those instincts leads us away from monogamy. Whether we choose to follow, on the other hand, is up to us."
-Dr. David P. Barash and Dr. Judith Eve Lipton,
"The Myth of Monogamy"

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 6:56pm

LM, the only thing that stopped me attempting suicide 7-8 years ago was that I just couldn't do it to Mum.

 


 


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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 7:01pm

Caroline,


None of us are bashing you!

 


 


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Registered: 09-16-2003
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 7:09pm
You poor baby, I am glad you are OK.


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Registered: 08-12-2002
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 7:21pm

Lol.