I'm 42 and he is 26 - 16 year age difference

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Registered: 02-18-2013
I'm 42 and he is 26 - 16 year age difference
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:30am

Well here is the scoop.  I'm a 42 year old female who is in the middle of an early mid-life crisis per say.  I have met a 26 year old younger guy and he is just about as hot as hot can be.  I'm not in too bad of shape for 42 and for what I lack in boobs I make up in legs and personality.  I've only known him for about 2 weeks and the sexual tention is just unreal to say the least.  I have to masturbate over 3 times a day when I find myself thinking about him.  I have only seen him face to face once and that one time wasn't enough for me.  We didn't have sex but we kissed like there was no tomorrow and like we were majorly in lust with eachother.  I'm almost afraid to see him again because I don't know if I can stop myself from falling for him really hard.  What do you guys suggest?

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Registered: 01-15-2013
Tue, 02-19-2013 - 5:46pm

He seems like he is "in to you" so I think that you are being unfair to yourself and probably to him if you don't see him again. Forget your age difference for now, just explore and see where this takes you. I married a much younger woman, and as I have told my friends: "it wasn't my fault" I stand by this because we don't always chose whom we love. Sometimes it just happens. Go for it, be careful with your heart and have fun!

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Registered: 08-08-2012
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 12:57pm

You both are adults and both are aware of the age difference and if it doesn't matter to you two, then who really cares what others think.

Though you have only known each other for a couple weeks, do you see yourself having a long term relationship? If so you would need to talk about whether or not there will be children, if so, you know you have a ticking clock.

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Registered: 02-22-2013
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 9:36pm

What are you waiting for? Go for it girl! Having a younger male partner myself, sometimes you must make the first Initiative.Sometimes...Wink

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Registered: 02-23-2013
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 1:12pm
I am 52 and my boyfriend is 37, we have been together for 9 months, what you are feeling is what I felt and still feel with him. We didn't start a physical relationship until 3 months after meeting, the mental attachement is great, and the physical attachement is off the hook! The funny part is he likes the fact that I know what I want from him mentally and physically, which he said is so sexy. I guess the fact that I don't look 52 is a plus. When you do get physcial with him believe me it is going to be out of this world. As long as both of you understand what you want out of this you will be good. For me and my boyfriend, we both wanted a relationship, so that was why we waited, good luck and have a ball!
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Registered: 02-18-2013
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:45pm
I want to thank you all for your comments and suggestions. I also need to come clean about some stuff. I'm so pathetic because I'm married. My spouse told me two months ago that he wasn't in love with me anymore but still loved me because of the children. I have never cheated on him ever in these 20 years. Hearing him tell me he wasn't in love with me actually cut me to my core. Since hearing those words I have changed my hair, got new clothes and apparently am doing something to get a 26 year olds attention. Those words hurt me so bad and I don't think I'll ever forgive him for saying them but he hasn't said his feelings have changed any yet. I think that is why I needed to feel sexy and hot again. Well remember how I said we hadn't had sex well we had oral sex only. We both wanted to have sex but we didn't have a condom. He made me cum twice within about ten minutes with just his tongue in the backseat. Well I guess our first meeting will also be our last because I told him that we couldn't be seen today because if anyone i work with would see me with him i would be caught He said he wanted to meet me at a hotel because he just couldn't stop thinking about our time we had spent together. Well I told him I just couldn't meet him at a hotel. I don't really know why in the heck I said no to the hotel. I guess I feel guilty for wanting another man as bad as I want to feel him inside me. I feel like an idiot now for acting like that. I want to just message him to tell him I was wrong for basically being a tease. I would say me not agreeing to go to a hotel with him after our experience together is wrong and just leading him on? Help me please I don't know if I should just let it go or email him and tell him how bad my body is wanting him completely. I haven't been able to think straight since I met him. I want to see him again but don't know if I should.
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Registered: 02-18-2013
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 5:49pm
I'm sure if we would have had sex it would have blown my mind. He could just look at me and I would melt.
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Registered: 02-22-2013
Sun, 03-03-2013 - 11:31pm
Aye to that!
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Registered: 09-04-2012
Sun, 03-10-2013 - 4:27pm

Would like to know more about you. You seem very open to exploration. I can easily fantasize making love to a woman like you.:)

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Registered: 02-18-2013
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 1:36pm
I wanted to let you all know that he contacted me last week after I was thinking I'd never hear from him again. We met yesterday afternoon and the sex was awesome. I feel so young when I'm with him.
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Registered: 09-27-2005
Thu, 03-14-2013 - 10:17pm
Not to be a Debbie Downer! In time you will see this cannot last. On the other hand, enjoy life, It sounds so exciting, for you and your male friend. Carpei Diem (SP?) Seize the Day. Life life to its fullest. It sounds like your marriage is over. Get on with your life! Male

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