I'm 42 and he is 26 - 16 year age difference

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Registered: 02-18-2013
I'm 42 and he is 26 - 16 year age difference
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:30am

Well here is the scoop.  I'm a 42 year old female who is in the middle of an early mid-life crisis per say.  I have met a 26 year old younger guy and he is just about as hot as hot can be.  I'm not in too bad of shape for 42 and for what I lack in boobs I make up in legs and personality.  I've only known him for about 2 weeks and the sexual tention is just unreal to say the least.  I have to masturbate over 3 times a day when I find myself thinking about him.  I have only seen him face to face once and that one time wasn't enough for me.  We didn't have sex but we kissed like there was no tomorrow and like we were majorly in lust with eachother.  I'm almost afraid to see him again because I don't know if I can stop myself from falling for him really hard.  What do you guys suggest?

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Tue, 04-30-2013 - 3:56pm

Hang in there.  The younger guy is probably trying to figure out what is real feelings are too.  After the sex, he may be asking himself if he wants more than a sexual relationship.  If he doens't call, you have your answer.  You could always call him to find out.  Being married though is a tough one.  You are either going to work this out with hubby or not.  If he doesn't love you and unwilling to go to therapy, move on.  Life is too short.  

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Registered: 01-11-2005
Sat, 04-20-2013 - 9:54pm

My girlfriend is twelve years older than me.  We have been together nine years and are still going strong.

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Registered: 03-25-2013
Thu, 04-11-2013 - 10:30pm

I was 22 when I dated a 42 year old woman.  When I was 25 I dated a 35 year old.  I remember being very grateful and very happy.  Of course, age difference meant we were in different places in life, so making it last "forever" maybe was not just unrealistic, but completely impossible.  And, it is not for sexual reasons the relationships ended, not at all. So, when we look at why younger women have perhaps more long term success with older men is because of a myriad of reproductive and financial reasons. Mostly, that men are better situated in life and able to "keep" a woman, supporting her and be a father if needed or desired. Women, if willing to "keep" a man can pick a younger or older man, it's up to her. But when a woman is not willing or able to "keep" a man, the younger man is rarely a viable long term option.

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Registered: 03-27-2013

I hope it works out.  I only wish I had a woman who was dying to make love to me.

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Registered: 02-18-2013
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 3:32pm

Well it doesn't look like me and my husband are going to make it last anymore.  He is just fine with things the way they are and does not want to go to therapy with me.  I just can't stop wondering what I should do now.  I think my husband will come around but not sure when he will.  While I wait on my husband I want the 26 yr old again.  I'm not going to ever get any younger and my life right now is so incredibly boring.  I go to work, come home, argue with husband, go to bed mad and upset, skip to next day and repeat.....that is my sad life.  I actually like to go to work everyday to escape my home life.  I am so old fashioned and think the man should contact the woman so I don't want to be the one to contact him first.  I know all of you say to stay away from him because he will break my heart well he already is tearing me up by not contacting me.  I want him again so bad I can hardly stand it.

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Registered: 02-18-2013
Sat, 03-23-2013 - 8:15am
At this point I'm sure I'm not going to hear from him again. If he was going to contact me he would have already done so. An update on my husband and myself....I asked to go to couples therapy and he said no. This is gonna get ugly.
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Registered: 01-15-2013
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 2:47pm

Any man can tell you, we can be bumbling idiots, he may be distracted with work or whatever, he'll come around.

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Registered: 08-02-2004
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:41pm

Love does happen in this way.  My first wife was 17 years older.  We were married that long too.  It was great.

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Registered: 02-18-2013
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 8:59am
Here it is Thursday after and still nothing from him. I can't believe I am this upset.
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Registered: 02-18-2013
Wed, 03-20-2013 - 12:22pm
Well it has been since last Tuesday since our fling and I received an email from him late that night stating that the afternoon was awesome. That was the last I have heard from him. Guess he is not interested in seeing me again since I haven't heard from him in over a week. I guess the sex wasn't that great for him. Oh well maybe it is best I don't hear from him. It just kinda makes me a little sad I haven't heard from him.

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