Im new here

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Registered: 01-11-2007
Im new here
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 11:57am
Just wanted to say hi, and after reading these boards for a while its nice to know I am not the only one who has taboo thoughts and desires. Mine are a little more out there but this has helped me feel better about me. Thanks.

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Registered: 01-11-2007
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:35pm
I guess so, I notice a lot of people who were responding in here haven't now, and that was what I was expecting. This has been a very weird time for me, so confusing and conflicted.
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Registered: 01-05-2007
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:35pm
Thank you, I just learned how to add them today.
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Registered: 12-25-2006
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:36pm

Believe it or not, I knew a mother and daughter in the late 1970's who had a sexual relationship that they enjoyed. The daughter didn't feel abused and the mother didn't feel there was any harm in it. Now the daughter was in her late 20's and it wasn't her first sexual encounter. She had been with both men and women prior to this.

I hope you weren't coerced into this situation and are suffering shame over it, because life happens and you just keep getting up every day and dealing with it. So I'm offering my support in whatever way you need it, if you need it.

Moonlight











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Registered: 08-23-2006
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:38pm

i don't think people are ignoring you because of what happened. its a diffacult situation, a lot of people aren't sure what to say. its not a problem that you hear about a lot. i think using the email to talk about it might be helpful. that way you can carefully plan out what you want to say. you don't have to worry about any emotions taking over and blurting something out that you didn't want to. and by the way, i'm leaving to go home in 20 minutes. i didn't want you to think that i stopped posting but i'm heading home for dinner.

is there anyone you can talk to about this. a friend, family member?

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Registered: 11-06-2006
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:38pm
well, I'm glad you did! I might get some mileage out of that pic! Guess I'll just have to type with the other hand!
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Registered: 09-21-2004
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:39pm
I would say talk about it and if you both feel ackward afterwards; maybe look into some counseling if you want this resolved and to get rid of the ackwardness....did that make sense. Good luck.

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Registered: 01-11-2007
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:40pm
Thank you moonlight, I was not coerced. I sent you an email, not sure if I did it correctly however. I appreciae everyones support here.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:42pm
I agree with what bears and dino have said. But I also think you need your on time and space to think it through first. I think you need to come to terms with it before you can really sit and talk about it with her.



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Registered: 06-02-2006
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:43pm

Kirjen... please don't be so hard on yourself. I bet there isnt a one of us that could feel that way about something in our pasts. Again, in all of the posts that have been made since your initial post, I havent seen one that was negative in any form or fashion. Like I said earlier, this is the nicest bunch of people... even if we are into 'taboo' things... ;o)

Feel at home here...

jim

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-11-2007
In reply to: kirjen
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:44pm
One thing I am struggling with is that I think about what happened and I get aroused, and I don't think that I should feel that way but I can't help it.

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